2008 Final Update
M.D. Wright
11.28.08
OK, I haven't had much free time this semester. Indeed, with six classes, four of which require 40-50 pages of reading per night and 2-3 reports due per week, I don't get much downtime anymore. I have only been able to contemplate my immediate future following graduation. I haven't been able to do hardly any applications for jobs nor grad schools, so nothing is concrete right now. However, my plans ARE written out. I'm just going to lay a few of them out right here so that you all will be apprised of what is taking place.
As of right now, we have one full week of classes remaining in this semester, then four final exams in my six classes (two of the classes only feature a final paper; one of which I will be turning in on Dec. 2). Following final exams, I will hopefully be able to land a job (Apple appears to be a good look, now that they've opened a store near UNCG's campus -- let's hope that works out). I also have to plan to take the GRE and later the LSAT. I've been getting advising from not only my academic advisor, but also those who are professionals in the fields that I will be working in and wise counsel from family and trusted friends. I think the best course of action for carrying out my plans is to do the following (which of course is subject to change; depending upon whether or not it is in line with God's will):
1. Use the fee waiver I have for law school applications and see where I get in. Even if I do not begin until the end of 2010 or early 2011, I may be able to get deferments.
2. Send in packages to prospective employers for post-graduation employment. The package would include resume, educational breakdown (more in-depth), cover letter, personal statement -- basically the same thing as a law school or regular grad school application.
3. Take two classes per semester both summer sessions in Summer 2009, 3 classes in the Fall 2009, Spring 2010 and take two in both summer sessions in Summer 2010 -- I will be done with my Masters (not sure if I am going to get a basic MBA, or have it concentrated in something like Human Resources Management or Finance. Not too keen on statistics and formulae in the mathematical arena -- or I may attempt an MA in Journalism since my writing skills have earned me countless honors since my Brooklyn LIU days). I need more clarity about this. Pray that I receive it from the Lord.
4. Upon completion of the Masters, I will have studied for and retaken the LSAT. If I do not get into the school of my choice with this first round of applications, the waiver is good until November 2010, so I have (virtually) until I complete my Masters to decide from where I want to obtain my Juris Doctorate.
5. I want to begin acquiring property once I get my feet firmly planted in Harlem next summer. The market is good for buyers and by the time I begin law school, I could be sitting on a gold mine if I can ever get my capital lined up. Following this, I plan to come down to North Carolina and carry out some of the long-discussed real estate and business plans that some of my family members and friends have desired to carry out. This way, even if I am in New York 90% of the time, things will be in place and the takeover in North Carolina will be in place hah.
In the middle of all that, I've got a whole assortment of other things that I don't need to talk about right now that will be popping off as well. However, I am not at liberty to discuss them. You will receive invitations if you are on this mailing list, though. Just know that much.
In terms of what will be taking place in the the spring of 2009, I have a few dates circled.
1. I want to go to the Inauguration, but if I am feeling wiped out like I am right now, I'll watch it on CNN and avoid missing the first day of class. Congressman Watt doesn't seem to sure that we will be able to get tickets, from what I could tell from his message.
2. My 30th birthday is March 30, 2009. Just letting the benevolent members of my mailing list know that. Hah. I am cancelling plans for the 90s themed party. I just want my family and friends to share with me. I may indeed choose to take that day as my chance to "host" our family's monthly gathering if everyone else has had their go 'round by then. The 90s Themed party would've been exclusive. I'd rather have my family around as I did yesterday on Thanksgiving. And it will be in an open space or outdoors so we can really get out and do some things. I have to discuss this with the "Powers That Be" though. My friends would still be welcome, since only a few of them are actually in North Carolina or Virginia.
3. I am graduating from UNCG on May 15, 2009. My Sociology Department graduation is the day before, I believe. Do not quote me on this yet. I have to speak to my advisor again once the spring semester begins to confirm. I cannot send invitations until I have applied and cleared for graduation in about February. No one will be forgotten. Keep in touch with me; that is the best way to ensure 100% that I do not forget to mail you an invitation. I don't care if you're in California, Kuwait, New York/New Jersey, Cuba, etc., if I can reach you, you will have an invitation.
4. As far as invitation to a couple of OTHER very important events for me, that stuff will be ironed out by the end of next summer once I am back in New York. I can't give anymore details than that right now
In Peace,
mdw
As politically incorrect as I wanna be.
Friday, November 28, 2008
Thursday, November 27, 2008
Serious Challenges Call For Serious Prayer
Serious Challenges Call For Serious Prayer
Chuck Colson
BreakPoint
November 5, 2008
Whether you voted for Barack Obama or John McCain, whether you’re recovering from your all-night celebration or drying the tears from your pillow, today’s a good day to remember the words of the apostle Paul: “I urge, then, first of all, that requests, prayers, intercession and thanksgiving be made for everyone— for kings and all those in authority, that we may live peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness and holiness” (1 Timothy 2:1-3).
And the new President will surely need our prayers because he and his administration face huge, serious challenges to the health of our nation and to peace in the world—challenges that, in my opinion, neither he nor any government on earth will have the power to overcome without divine aid.
How has America come to this point? Why is our economy on the brink of disaster? Why is our culture so utterly depraved?
I can only think of what Alexandr Solzhenitsyn said about the catastrophic consequences of the Russian revolution. “I recall,” he said, “hearing a number of older people offer the following explanation for the great disasters that had befallen Russia: Men have forgotten God; that's why all this has happened.”
Solzhenitsyn was right. Indeed, I can’t find any better explanation for why we Americans find ourselves in the state we are in. We have forgotten God.
We have also forgotten that American democracy—indeed Western Civilization itself—is the product of the Judeo-Christian understanding of God and humanity. Without that revelation that man is created in the image of God, our founders never would have recognized the unalienable rights to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. Indeed, as I and others like Rodney Stark have argued, modern science and education, liberal democracy, capitalism flourished in Western civilization precisely because of the Judeo-Christian worldview.
The attacks on Christianity these days are only going to intensify in the months ahead. But we must press on all the more to make a winsome witness. Those who would banish Christianity from American life are risking the very survival of American society.
Friends have asked me whether this economic crisis is God’s judgment upon us. I don’t know.
As I’ve re-read the Old Testament prophets recently, I couldn’t help but notice the recurring theme: The people of God turned away from Him and worshipped false idols. The result was always disaster.
Is God responsible for credit markets collapsing around the world? No. We’re responsible. Because instead of worshiping God, we’ve worshipped false idols of the marketplace, credit card companies and cheap mortgages. We’ve put our own appetites over our duties to God and neighbor.
So this is no time for Christians to go into the bunkers. No time to wail or moan over our retirement plans. This is a time to repent, to pray more, to give more. It’s a time for Christians to lead, encourage, and minister to a faltering country in a faltering economy.
This is a time for the Church to get serious about Christian discipleship. Enough cheap grace.
So pray for the new President and his administration. But most of all, my brothers and sisters, this is a time to love our neighbors and to hunger for God and His righteousness.
Chuck Colson’s daily BreakPoint commentary airs each weekday on more than one thousand outlets with an estimated listening audience of one million people. BreakPoint provides a Christian perspective on today’s news and trends via radio, interactive media, and print.
Chuck Colson
BreakPoint
November 5, 2008
Whether you voted for Barack Obama or John McCain, whether you’re recovering from your all-night celebration or drying the tears from your pillow, today’s a good day to remember the words of the apostle Paul: “I urge, then, first of all, that requests, prayers, intercession and thanksgiving be made for everyone— for kings and all those in authority, that we may live peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness and holiness” (1 Timothy 2:1-3).
And the new President will surely need our prayers because he and his administration face huge, serious challenges to the health of our nation and to peace in the world—challenges that, in my opinion, neither he nor any government on earth will have the power to overcome without divine aid.
How has America come to this point? Why is our economy on the brink of disaster? Why is our culture so utterly depraved?
I can only think of what Alexandr Solzhenitsyn said about the catastrophic consequences of the Russian revolution. “I recall,” he said, “hearing a number of older people offer the following explanation for the great disasters that had befallen Russia: Men have forgotten God; that's why all this has happened.”
Solzhenitsyn was right. Indeed, I can’t find any better explanation for why we Americans find ourselves in the state we are in. We have forgotten God.
We have also forgotten that American democracy—indeed Western Civilization itself—is the product of the Judeo-Christian understanding of God and humanity. Without that revelation that man is created in the image of God, our founders never would have recognized the unalienable rights to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. Indeed, as I and others like Rodney Stark have argued, modern science and education, liberal democracy, capitalism flourished in Western civilization precisely because of the Judeo-Christian worldview.
The attacks on Christianity these days are only going to intensify in the months ahead. But we must press on all the more to make a winsome witness. Those who would banish Christianity from American life are risking the very survival of American society.
Friends have asked me whether this economic crisis is God’s judgment upon us. I don’t know.
As I’ve re-read the Old Testament prophets recently, I couldn’t help but notice the recurring theme: The people of God turned away from Him and worshipped false idols. The result was always disaster.
Is God responsible for credit markets collapsing around the world? No. We’re responsible. Because instead of worshiping God, we’ve worshipped false idols of the marketplace, credit card companies and cheap mortgages. We’ve put our own appetites over our duties to God and neighbor.
So this is no time for Christians to go into the bunkers. No time to wail or moan over our retirement plans. This is a time to repent, to pray more, to give more. It’s a time for Christians to lead, encourage, and minister to a faltering country in a faltering economy.
This is a time for the Church to get serious about Christian discipleship. Enough cheap grace.
So pray for the new President and his administration. But most of all, my brothers and sisters, this is a time to love our neighbors and to hunger for God and His righteousness.
Chuck Colson’s daily BreakPoint commentary airs each weekday on more than one thousand outlets with an estimated listening audience of one million people. BreakPoint provides a Christian perspective on today’s news and trends via radio, interactive media, and print.
More Than These
More Than These
Hudson Russell Davis
Crosswalk.com Contributing Writer
I want to know. I have always wanted to know. Everything!!! But in my singleness I wanted most of all to know why love tarried. I was under the impression that given enough information, given the right answers I would be able to cope with my loneliness and rest peacefully in God’s arms.
The truth is I would not understand were He to explain all things to me. I would not grasp the mind of God should He open to me the gates of heaven. And I realized that it was a relationship I craved and not knowledge. What I wanted was for the sadness to end, for love to present herself. Knowing would never keep me warm. Knowing would not end the loneliness.
The desire to know was my way of controlling God. It was my way of harnessing the reckless nature of faith, of taming the mysterious God who causes the wind to blow. I won’t pretend that I don’t want to know why love shows me such disregard but the answer has ceased to be so important because I love Him and He loves me.
Our God loves us and desires to bless us and so we have hope. What we do not yet know is whether He plans to bless us with this particular gift—whether hope will be fulfilled and if so—when. That He desires to bless us, that He has already blessed us in myriad ways is unquestionable “for no matter how many promises God has made, they are 'Yes' in Christ. And so through him the ‘Amen’ is spoken by us to the glory of God” (2 Cor. 1:20).
It is simply no comfort to me to find formulas within Scripture that I can use to end this longing. It is no comfort to me to hear people, impressed with me, say, “Surely God will bless you.” Or some will say, “You deserve a wife.” I am aware of what I deserve and it is not a wife. I already have a promise in Christ that I will not get what I deserve. What I await is His gracious kindness.
In all cases and in every way it is God’s provision, God’s work through Christ. Therefore, I love and pursue righteousness because they are worthwhile pursuits and I trust God to bless in His time, in His way. I am not comfortable saying, “I don’t know.” I have been to seminary and, while I learned a great deal, while I am not equipped to answer many questions, I am very comfortable saying that there are things I just do not know.
What I dare not do is sit and wait for the blessing of a wife. What I dare not do is believe that some slick formula or five-step process will work magic for me where God’s grace has not. What I dare not do is begin the process of bargaining or manipulation to make God answer me—as though He were deaf or callous to my needs.
We must pray. We must act. We must prepare. But we dare not lose sight of our place in the family. He is the Father and we are the children and as children—we know the Father would never give us a stone when we ask for bread (Matt. 7:9).
We are not in control of as much as we desire, but that is the issue. Who is in control and why do we desire to master the situation? This is what steals our peace. We are pushed off center by the fear that, for all our prayers and the prayers of those who love us we are no closer to our goal. We are unearthed by the simple fact that all our efforts have not yielded the promised result and we judge God for sleeping on the job.
I realize that He may have called me to Himself for more than a wife and family. I know that I came for more than a wife and family. I have a longing but I realize that He loves me and that, despite what I have and do not have, I love Him. I truly love Him. I have had to answer, far more than three times, the question He posed to Peter:
“Hudson, do you truly love me more than these?”
“You mean more than a wife and more than children? Do you mean more than cuddling and Eskimo kisses? Do you mean more than family campfires and sing-a-longs? Do you mean more than long walks hand in hand with my beloved wife and children? If you mean more than these and porch swing conversations, then yes.”
“Yes, Lord, You know that I love You more than these.”
Adam was told to tend the Garden and I was told, “Trust me.”
He asked again, “Hudson, do you truly love me?”
“You mean, Lord, more than sharing life with someone and learning to love her faults? Do you mean more than the joys of Christmas morning and giving gifts to my children? Lord, if you mean more than tuck-ins and bedside prayers, then yes.”
“Yes, Lord, You know that I love You more than these.”
Adam was told to name the animals and I was told, “Trust me.”
The third time He said to me, “Hudson, do you love me?” I was hurt because He asked me the third time, “Do you love me?”
“Lord, if you mean more than quiet moonlit evenings counting stars with the wife of my youth, then yes. If you mean more than birthdays parties and sleeping-in on Saturdays and breakfast in bed, then yes. If you mean more than making up after foolish words were said, yes. If you mean more than falling asleep in the arms of the woman I love, then yes—a thousand times yes.
“You know all things; You know that I love You.”
He said simply, “Trust me” (John 21:15-17).
No answer is as simple or reprehensible as the one we do not want to hear, the one we already know. It is my desire to master these years of longing that have tempted my sanity. Faith will have none of it. Faith demands my allegiance while much is still in the balance, while much of the puzzle is yet unfinished. Faith demands that I love and follow not because of what I have, hold, or see, but because of the guarantee. Faith calls me to trust and is the currency of the kingdom of God.
Faith is not a force. It is not a tool by which we manipulate God into our own fulfillment. Faith is the confidence that allows us to walk through the valley of the shadow of death with stiff backs, firmly resolved to fear no evil.
There is a God who, even in the midst of our longing, calls us His own and loves us. The only answer that really matters is the question asked by the disciples, asked by Martha, “Lord, don’t you care?” (Mark 4:38, Luke 10:40). He cares.
Look! Even now if you ask Him He will rise, speak, and calm the storm. We are free to mourn to our loss but we must do so in trust. We must show that we love Him by letting faith blossom in hope until hope radiates to a lost and dying world.
Hudson Russell Davis was born on a small Island in the West Indies called Dominica, and this is only one reason he does not like cold weather and loves guava. He is a graduate of James Madison University with a B.A. in Graphic Design and earned a Masters in Theology from Dallas Theological Seminary. Currently he is a Ph.D. candidate at Saint Louis University studying historical theology. Hudson has worked as a graphic artist and worship leader but expresses himself through poetry, prose, photography, and music. His activities are just about anything outdoors, but tennis is his current passion.
Got feedback? Send your comments and questions to Hudson at hudsondavis@streamsinthewilderness.com. If you don't hear back within a few days' time, please try again. Hudson would like to respond to all reader feedback.
Hudson Russell Davis
Crosswalk.com Contributing Writer
I want to know. I have always wanted to know. Everything!!! But in my singleness I wanted most of all to know why love tarried. I was under the impression that given enough information, given the right answers I would be able to cope with my loneliness and rest peacefully in God’s arms.
The truth is I would not understand were He to explain all things to me. I would not grasp the mind of God should He open to me the gates of heaven. And I realized that it was a relationship I craved and not knowledge. What I wanted was for the sadness to end, for love to present herself. Knowing would never keep me warm. Knowing would not end the loneliness.
The desire to know was my way of controlling God. It was my way of harnessing the reckless nature of faith, of taming the mysterious God who causes the wind to blow. I won’t pretend that I don’t want to know why love shows me such disregard but the answer has ceased to be so important because I love Him and He loves me.
Our God loves us and desires to bless us and so we have hope. What we do not yet know is whether He plans to bless us with this particular gift—whether hope will be fulfilled and if so—when. That He desires to bless us, that He has already blessed us in myriad ways is unquestionable “for no matter how many promises God has made, they are 'Yes' in Christ. And so through him the ‘Amen’ is spoken by us to the glory of God” (2 Cor. 1:20).
It is simply no comfort to me to find formulas within Scripture that I can use to end this longing. It is no comfort to me to hear people, impressed with me, say, “Surely God will bless you.” Or some will say, “You deserve a wife.” I am aware of what I deserve and it is not a wife. I already have a promise in Christ that I will not get what I deserve. What I await is His gracious kindness.
In all cases and in every way it is God’s provision, God’s work through Christ. Therefore, I love and pursue righteousness because they are worthwhile pursuits and I trust God to bless in His time, in His way. I am not comfortable saying, “I don’t know.” I have been to seminary and, while I learned a great deal, while I am not equipped to answer many questions, I am very comfortable saying that there are things I just do not know.
What I dare not do is sit and wait for the blessing of a wife. What I dare not do is believe that some slick formula or five-step process will work magic for me where God’s grace has not. What I dare not do is begin the process of bargaining or manipulation to make God answer me—as though He were deaf or callous to my needs.
We must pray. We must act. We must prepare. But we dare not lose sight of our place in the family. He is the Father and we are the children and as children—we know the Father would never give us a stone when we ask for bread (Matt. 7:9).
We are not in control of as much as we desire, but that is the issue. Who is in control and why do we desire to master the situation? This is what steals our peace. We are pushed off center by the fear that, for all our prayers and the prayers of those who love us we are no closer to our goal. We are unearthed by the simple fact that all our efforts have not yielded the promised result and we judge God for sleeping on the job.
I realize that He may have called me to Himself for more than a wife and family. I know that I came for more than a wife and family. I have a longing but I realize that He loves me and that, despite what I have and do not have, I love Him. I truly love Him. I have had to answer, far more than three times, the question He posed to Peter:
“Hudson, do you truly love me more than these?”
“You mean more than a wife and more than children? Do you mean more than cuddling and Eskimo kisses? Do you mean more than family campfires and sing-a-longs? Do you mean more than long walks hand in hand with my beloved wife and children? If you mean more than these and porch swing conversations, then yes.”
“Yes, Lord, You know that I love You more than these.”
Adam was told to tend the Garden and I was told, “Trust me.”
He asked again, “Hudson, do you truly love me?”
“You mean, Lord, more than sharing life with someone and learning to love her faults? Do you mean more than the joys of Christmas morning and giving gifts to my children? Lord, if you mean more than tuck-ins and bedside prayers, then yes.”
“Yes, Lord, You know that I love You more than these.”
Adam was told to name the animals and I was told, “Trust me.”
The third time He said to me, “Hudson, do you love me?” I was hurt because He asked me the third time, “Do you love me?”
“Lord, if you mean more than quiet moonlit evenings counting stars with the wife of my youth, then yes. If you mean more than birthdays parties and sleeping-in on Saturdays and breakfast in bed, then yes. If you mean more than making up after foolish words were said, yes. If you mean more than falling asleep in the arms of the woman I love, then yes—a thousand times yes.
“You know all things; You know that I love You.”
He said simply, “Trust me” (John 21:15-17).
No answer is as simple or reprehensible as the one we do not want to hear, the one we already know. It is my desire to master these years of longing that have tempted my sanity. Faith will have none of it. Faith demands my allegiance while much is still in the balance, while much of the puzzle is yet unfinished. Faith demands that I love and follow not because of what I have, hold, or see, but because of the guarantee. Faith calls me to trust and is the currency of the kingdom of God.
Faith is not a force. It is not a tool by which we manipulate God into our own fulfillment. Faith is the confidence that allows us to walk through the valley of the shadow of death with stiff backs, firmly resolved to fear no evil.
There is a God who, even in the midst of our longing, calls us His own and loves us. The only answer that really matters is the question asked by the disciples, asked by Martha, “Lord, don’t you care?” (Mark 4:38, Luke 10:40). He cares.
Look! Even now if you ask Him He will rise, speak, and calm the storm. We are free to mourn to our loss but we must do so in trust. We must show that we love Him by letting faith blossom in hope until hope radiates to a lost and dying world.
Hudson Russell Davis was born on a small Island in the West Indies called Dominica, and this is only one reason he does not like cold weather and loves guava. He is a graduate of James Madison University with a B.A. in Graphic Design and earned a Masters in Theology from Dallas Theological Seminary. Currently he is a Ph.D. candidate at Saint Louis University studying historical theology. Hudson has worked as a graphic artist and worship leader but expresses himself through poetry, prose, photography, and music. His activities are just about anything outdoors, but tennis is his current passion.
Got feedback? Send your comments and questions to Hudson at hudsondavis@streamsinthewilderness.com. If you don't hear back within a few days' time, please try again. Hudson would like to respond to all reader feedback.
Wednesday, November 26, 2008
NFL Week 13 Picks: SUPER EXPRESS EDITION
NFL Week 13 Picks: SUPER EXPRESS EDITION
M.D. Wright
11.26.08
I've got to get these out in a hurry. Last week was a normal 10-6 week for me. Should have been 14-2, if I hadn't let my hatred of certain teams get in the way. Oh.
I've gotten slack with the explanation for my picks, in case you were hoping that would change this week? Don't bet on it. I've got too much work to do. LOL
Tennessee Titans vs. Detroit Lions
Ford Field
Detroit, Michigan
*Thanksgiving Day*
Please take the Lions off the Thanksgiving sked and replace them with the Giants, good lord. This is going to be ugly. The Titans might not pass the ball 15 times all day -- and why would they when rushing against a team with a defense like a sieve?
Call:
Tennessee 24
Detroit 9
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Seattle Seahawks vs. Dallas Cowboys
Texas Stadium
Irving, Texas
Another embarrassment to the NFL. Dallas is more viable than Detroit, and many people thought Seattle would be good this year. However, this game won't be a blowout. Just a snoozefest.
Call:
Seattle 17
Dallas 23
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Arizona Cardinals vs. Philadelphia Eagles
Lincoln Financial Field
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
THIS IS THE GAME THAT SHOULD BE ON TV!!! The friggin' NFL Network is like the KGB. I refuse to comment on it in protest.
Call:
Arizona 34
Philadelphia 23
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San Francisco 49ers vs. Buffalo Bills
Ralph Wilson Stadium
Orchard Park, New York
The Bills are in dire straits in regards to their playoff chances. The 49ers have settled into their post-honeymoon Mike Singletary slump. Bills win a much needed game.
Call:
San Francisco 13
Buffalo 21
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Baltimore Ravens vs. Cincinnati Bengals
Paul Brown Stadium
Cincinnati, Ohio
Watching the Bengals play the swarming Ravens is like watching people get tossed to the hungry lions. No, not the DETROIT TOOTHLESS LIONS, either.
Call:
Baltimore 30
Cincinnati 10
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Indianapolis Colts vs. Cleveland Browns
Cleveland Browns Stadium
Cleveland, Ohio
The Browns' owner has put the Browns on notice. Not that it matters. The Colts are back and they are going to bludgeon the Browns out of their own stadium. Crennel and Savage and their clown act will end in December.
Call:
Indianapolis 31
Cleveland 14
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Carolina Panthers vs. Green Bay Packers
Lambeau Field
Green Bay, Wisconsin
OK, a repeat of the 1996 NFC Champeenship game. The Panthers are "better" than the Packers, but neither team looks like more than a one and done in the playoffs. It's a wonder (with Jake Delhomme's play, DESPITE the running game) how they're 8-3. The Packers proved that if they can't get INTs with their secondary, they can't keep up with decent scoring teams. The Panthers DO score very well, ya know...
Call:
Carolina 27
Green Bay 20
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Miami Dolphins vs. St. Louis Rams
Edward Jones Dome
St. Louis, Missouri
The Rams have mailed in the season and are vying for the #2 pick in the 2009 NFL Draft. The end.
Call:
Miami 28
St. Louis 6
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New Orleans Saints vs. Tampa Bay Buccaneers
Raymond James Stadium
Tampa, Florida
The Saints scored a HUGE win Monday night. Will it carry over to this game? It is tough to do much against the Bucs, because they don't give up big plays nor make mistakes. I just find it hard to believe that the Bucs can cover all the guys that Brees passes the ball to. Maybe Bush comes back for this one? Who knows? He won't matter.
Call:
New Orleans 27
Tampa Bay 17
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New York Football Giants vs. Washington Redskins
FedEx Field
Landover, Maryland
The Giants defeated the 'skins in Week 1 at home, but this is going to be a tougher game. The Redskins are reeling, though. Their defense is playing well, but the offense is falling off badly. If Jason Campbell does not right the ship in this game, they are going to be in trouble. The Giants' pass rush and exceptional back-seven coverage (still not sure where all the nonsense about the Giants' secondary being supposedly "weak" is coming from) is going to get at him and he's going to make mistakes. Clinton Portis MUST have a 100 yard game to give them a chance.
Call:
NY Giants 31
Washington 24
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Atlanta Falcons vs. San Diego Chargers
Qualcomm Stadium
San Diego, California
Panic time for the Chargers. They usually go on a winning streak during this time of the year. They need it. But Matty Ice will rebound from a couple of mediocre performances to carry the Falcons to a win over the spotty Chargers' defense. Michael Turner and Roddy White continue to wow the casual fan (and help me win fantasy football games). The Chargers can (and will) lose this game and STILL potentially win the AFC West in Week 17.
Call:
Atlanta 28
San Diego 27
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Pittsburgh Steelers vs. New England Patriots
Gillette Stadium
Foxborough, Massachusetts
The Patriots are going to get exposed Sunday. That is all I am going to say. Playing the Steelers are an accurate barometer of who's great and who's just pretending to be contenders this year in the NFL. You will know what the Patriots are made out of after this one.
Call:
Pittsburgh 24
New England 20
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Denver Broncos vs. New York Football Jets
Giants Stadium
East Rutherford, New Jersey
Goodness sakes the Broncos defense... (pause as I well up with tears). This could be a bloodbath if the Jets remain true to form. No, it WILL BE. The Broncos just got BLOWN OUT BY THE OAKLAND RAIDERS!!!
Call:
Denver 14
NY Jets 27
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Kansas City Chiefs vs. Oakland Raiders
McAfee Coliseum
Oakland, California
Both teams suck. Both teams suck. Both teams suck. Both teams suck. God bless and good night.
Call:
Kansas City 6
Oakland 3
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Chicago Bears vs. Minnesota Vikings
Hubert H. Humphrey Metrodome
Minneapolis, Minnesota
*SUNDAY NIGHT FOOTBALL*
The Bears really need to put some distance between themselves and the rest of the division. Winning this game will give them tiebreakers and more confidence down the stretch in the last quarter of the season. I think they will pull it off.
Call:
Chicago 23
Minnesota 17
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Jacksonville Jaguars vs. Houston Texans
Reliant Stadium
Houston, Texas
Why is this game coming on Monday Night...?
I'm only watching for three insignificant (in the context of the game itself) reasons: 1) The prospect of seeing Sagecopter II 2) Steve Slaton rack up points for me in Fantasy, but at the same time 3) The Jaguars are being benched as my fantasy defense this week in favor of the Browns; who will do no better against Indy. Man fantasy sucks at times.
Call:
Jacksonville 13
Houston 27
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More later...
M.D. Wright
11.26.08
I've got to get these out in a hurry. Last week was a normal 10-6 week for me. Should have been 14-2, if I hadn't let my hatred of certain teams get in the way. Oh.
I've gotten slack with the explanation for my picks, in case you were hoping that would change this week? Don't bet on it. I've got too much work to do. LOL
Tennessee Titans vs. Detroit Lions
Ford Field
Detroit, Michigan
*Thanksgiving Day*
Please take the Lions off the Thanksgiving sked and replace them with the Giants, good lord. This is going to be ugly. The Titans might not pass the ball 15 times all day -- and why would they when rushing against a team with a defense like a sieve?
Call:
Tennessee 24
Detroit 9
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Seattle Seahawks vs. Dallas Cowboys
Texas Stadium
Irving, Texas
Another embarrassment to the NFL. Dallas is more viable than Detroit, and many people thought Seattle would be good this year. However, this game won't be a blowout. Just a snoozefest.
Call:
Seattle 17
Dallas 23
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Arizona Cardinals vs. Philadelphia Eagles
Lincoln Financial Field
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
THIS IS THE GAME THAT SHOULD BE ON TV!!! The friggin' NFL Network is like the KGB. I refuse to comment on it in protest.
Call:
Arizona 34
Philadelphia 23
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San Francisco 49ers vs. Buffalo Bills
Ralph Wilson Stadium
Orchard Park, New York
The Bills are in dire straits in regards to their playoff chances. The 49ers have settled into their post-honeymoon Mike Singletary slump. Bills win a much needed game.
Call:
San Francisco 13
Buffalo 21
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Baltimore Ravens vs. Cincinnati Bengals
Paul Brown Stadium
Cincinnati, Ohio
Watching the Bengals play the swarming Ravens is like watching people get tossed to the hungry lions. No, not the DETROIT TOOTHLESS LIONS, either.
Call:
Baltimore 30
Cincinnati 10
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Indianapolis Colts vs. Cleveland Browns
Cleveland Browns Stadium
Cleveland, Ohio
The Browns' owner has put the Browns on notice. Not that it matters. The Colts are back and they are going to bludgeon the Browns out of their own stadium. Crennel and Savage and their clown act will end in December.
Call:
Indianapolis 31
Cleveland 14
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Carolina Panthers vs. Green Bay Packers
Lambeau Field
Green Bay, Wisconsin
OK, a repeat of the 1996 NFC Champeenship game. The Panthers are "better" than the Packers, but neither team looks like more than a one and done in the playoffs. It's a wonder (with Jake Delhomme's play, DESPITE the running game) how they're 8-3. The Packers proved that if they can't get INTs with their secondary, they can't keep up with decent scoring teams. The Panthers DO score very well, ya know...
Call:
Carolina 27
Green Bay 20
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Miami Dolphins vs. St. Louis Rams
Edward Jones Dome
St. Louis, Missouri
The Rams have mailed in the season and are vying for the #2 pick in the 2009 NFL Draft. The end.
Call:
Miami 28
St. Louis 6
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New Orleans Saints vs. Tampa Bay Buccaneers
Raymond James Stadium
Tampa, Florida
The Saints scored a HUGE win Monday night. Will it carry over to this game? It is tough to do much against the Bucs, because they don't give up big plays nor make mistakes. I just find it hard to believe that the Bucs can cover all the guys that Brees passes the ball to. Maybe Bush comes back for this one? Who knows? He won't matter.
Call:
New Orleans 27
Tampa Bay 17
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New York Football Giants vs. Washington Redskins
FedEx Field
Landover, Maryland
The Giants defeated the 'skins in Week 1 at home, but this is going to be a tougher game. The Redskins are reeling, though. Their defense is playing well, but the offense is falling off badly. If Jason Campbell does not right the ship in this game, they are going to be in trouble. The Giants' pass rush and exceptional back-seven coverage (still not sure where all the nonsense about the Giants' secondary being supposedly "weak" is coming from) is going to get at him and he's going to make mistakes. Clinton Portis MUST have a 100 yard game to give them a chance.
Call:
NY Giants 31
Washington 24
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Atlanta Falcons vs. San Diego Chargers
Qualcomm Stadium
San Diego, California
Panic time for the Chargers. They usually go on a winning streak during this time of the year. They need it. But Matty Ice will rebound from a couple of mediocre performances to carry the Falcons to a win over the spotty Chargers' defense. Michael Turner and Roddy White continue to wow the casual fan (and help me win fantasy football games). The Chargers can (and will) lose this game and STILL potentially win the AFC West in Week 17.
Call:
Atlanta 28
San Diego 27
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Pittsburgh Steelers vs. New England Patriots
Gillette Stadium
Foxborough, Massachusetts
The Patriots are going to get exposed Sunday. That is all I am going to say. Playing the Steelers are an accurate barometer of who's great and who's just pretending to be contenders this year in the NFL. You will know what the Patriots are made out of after this one.
Call:
Pittsburgh 24
New England 20
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Denver Broncos vs. New York Football Jets
Giants Stadium
East Rutherford, New Jersey
Goodness sakes the Broncos defense... (pause as I well up with tears). This could be a bloodbath if the Jets remain true to form. No, it WILL BE. The Broncos just got BLOWN OUT BY THE OAKLAND RAIDERS!!!
Call:
Denver 14
NY Jets 27
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Kansas City Chiefs vs. Oakland Raiders
McAfee Coliseum
Oakland, California
Both teams suck. Both teams suck. Both teams suck. Both teams suck. God bless and good night.
Call:
Kansas City 6
Oakland 3
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Chicago Bears vs. Minnesota Vikings
Hubert H. Humphrey Metrodome
Minneapolis, Minnesota
*SUNDAY NIGHT FOOTBALL*
The Bears really need to put some distance between themselves and the rest of the division. Winning this game will give them tiebreakers and more confidence down the stretch in the last quarter of the season. I think they will pull it off.
Call:
Chicago 23
Minnesota 17
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Jacksonville Jaguars vs. Houston Texans
Reliant Stadium
Houston, Texas
Why is this game coming on Monday Night...?
I'm only watching for three insignificant (in the context of the game itself) reasons: 1) The prospect of seeing Sagecopter II 2) Steve Slaton rack up points for me in Fantasy, but at the same time 3) The Jaguars are being benched as my fantasy defense this week in favor of the Browns; who will do no better against Indy. Man fantasy sucks at times.
Call:
Jacksonville 13
Houston 27
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More later...
My NFL Week 13 Power Rankings
My NFL Week 13 Power Rankings
M.D. Wright
11.26.08
I finally got around to doing these. I've been doing the wash, cooking and making other preparations for the CALVARY that will be at our house for Thanksgiving. Finally, order is restored with the Jints at the top of the heap with NO QUESTIONS ASKED again.
1. New York Football Giants. The best team in the NFL. All-around. No debate allowed.
2. New York Football Jets. Many will argue, especially since the Jets have lost to the Raiders and nearly lost to the Chiefs; but RIGHT NOW they are the best team in the AFC.
3. Tennessee Titans. Titans fans and apologists should take heed from a Giants fan here -- KERRY COLLINS IS YOUR QUARTERBACK. If the Titans are smart, they'd practice some Wildcat Offense and put Vince Young in there during the playoffs.
4. Indianapolis Colts. They're back; which means the AFC should cower. They can win out. YES, seriously.
5. Pittsburgh Steelers. They still appear to be shaky to me. Parker in? Parker out? Roethlisberger in? Roethlisberger out?
6. Carolina Panthers. I have to give them credit, even if Jake Delhomme has looked CRUDDY this month.
7. Atlanta Falcons. They have four losses, but they're still impressive and better than Dallas, Washington and Tampa Bay.
8. Tampa Bay Buccaneers. Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz... still trying to figure out how they do it. They are the most boring team to watch.
9. Baltimore Ravens. You do not want to play them right now. They could very well finish 11-5 or 12-4 this year.
10. Arizona Cardinals. There's no shame in losing to the best team in the NFL by only 8 points. Kurt is the MVP and they are still impregnable and impetuous on offense.
11. New England Patriots. Get outta here with the Cassel talk. They still aren't impressing me.
12. Washington Redskins. They're reeling, but still a smidge ahead of Dallas.
13. Dallas Cowboys. Sure, Owens had a great game, but they WERE playing hapless SF.
14. Miami Dolphins. WILDCAT!!! WILDCAT!!! WILDCAT!!!
15. New Orleans Saints. HUGE win for them Monday. They're the best of the 6-5 teams in the NFC.
16. Chicago Bears. You never know which team is going to show up each week... appropriately in the middle of the pack.
17. Minnesota Vikings. Gus Frerotte is going to lead them right OUT of the playoffs.
18. Buffalo Bills. They are reeling like Washington, but they got a nice win last week to salvage their slim playoff hopes.
19. Philadelphia Eagles. The Iggles are in DEEP trouble. They have a game coming up against the Giants in New York as well. That game will either bolster to completely kill their slim playoff hopes.
20. Denver Broncos. The Broncos SUCK.
21. Green Bay Packers. The Bi-Polar team of the NFL.
22. San Diego Chargers. Time for the Chargers to man up and go on their patented/annual 5-game win streak. They probably only need to win 8 games (including the tie-breaking win vs. Denver in Week 17) to win the division, but a safer bet for them (and Norv's job) is to win out and ensure they make the playoffs.
23. Houston Texans. They beat Cleveland. Whoopee.
24. Cleveland Browns. The Browns have been put on notice. Will this increase urgency on this talented, but underachieving team?
25. Jacksonville Jaguars. They piss me off with their defensive play. It has cost me two games in Fantasy Football.
26. Oakland Raiders. THE RAIDERS CAN REALISTICALLY WIN THE AFC WEST. That ought to tell you how bad this division is.
27. Kansas City Chiefs. They Chiefs are playing much better, but they still are a few pieces short of a puzzle.
28. San Francisco 49ers. They could've jumped on Dallas early on Sunday and did not take advantage of sluggish early play by the Cowboys. Then the avalanche occurred.
29. Seattle Seahawks. Mike Holmgrem has to throw up in his throat thinking about going out like this.
30. St. Louis Rams. YIKES.
31. Cincinnati Bengals. They need to get rid of Chad Johnson. ASAP.
32. Detroit Lions. Goodness gracious SAKES alive... can they just go 0-16 and draft ANOTHER WR next year?
M.D. Wright
11.26.08
I finally got around to doing these. I've been doing the wash, cooking and making other preparations for the CALVARY that will be at our house for Thanksgiving. Finally, order is restored with the Jints at the top of the heap with NO QUESTIONS ASKED again.
1. New York Football Giants. The best team in the NFL. All-around. No debate allowed.
2. New York Football Jets. Many will argue, especially since the Jets have lost to the Raiders and nearly lost to the Chiefs; but RIGHT NOW they are the best team in the AFC.
3. Tennessee Titans. Titans fans and apologists should take heed from a Giants fan here -- KERRY COLLINS IS YOUR QUARTERBACK. If the Titans are smart, they'd practice some Wildcat Offense and put Vince Young in there during the playoffs.
4. Indianapolis Colts. They're back; which means the AFC should cower. They can win out. YES, seriously.
5. Pittsburgh Steelers. They still appear to be shaky to me. Parker in? Parker out? Roethlisberger in? Roethlisberger out?
6. Carolina Panthers. I have to give them credit, even if Jake Delhomme has looked CRUDDY this month.
7. Atlanta Falcons. They have four losses, but they're still impressive and better than Dallas, Washington and Tampa Bay.
8. Tampa Bay Buccaneers. Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz... still trying to figure out how they do it. They are the most boring team to watch.
9. Baltimore Ravens. You do not want to play them right now. They could very well finish 11-5 or 12-4 this year.
10. Arizona Cardinals. There's no shame in losing to the best team in the NFL by only 8 points. Kurt is the MVP and they are still impregnable and impetuous on offense.
11. New England Patriots. Get outta here with the Cassel talk. They still aren't impressing me.
12. Washington Redskins. They're reeling, but still a smidge ahead of Dallas.
13. Dallas Cowboys. Sure, Owens had a great game, but they WERE playing hapless SF.
14. Miami Dolphins. WILDCAT!!! WILDCAT!!! WILDCAT!!!
15. New Orleans Saints. HUGE win for them Monday. They're the best of the 6-5 teams in the NFC.
16. Chicago Bears. You never know which team is going to show up each week... appropriately in the middle of the pack.
17. Minnesota Vikings. Gus Frerotte is going to lead them right OUT of the playoffs.
18. Buffalo Bills. They are reeling like Washington, but they got a nice win last week to salvage their slim playoff hopes.
19. Philadelphia Eagles. The Iggles are in DEEP trouble. They have a game coming up against the Giants in New York as well. That game will either bolster to completely kill their slim playoff hopes.
20. Denver Broncos. The Broncos SUCK.
21. Green Bay Packers. The Bi-Polar team of the NFL.
22. San Diego Chargers. Time for the Chargers to man up and go on their patented/annual 5-game win streak. They probably only need to win 8 games (including the tie-breaking win vs. Denver in Week 17) to win the division, but a safer bet for them (and Norv's job) is to win out and ensure they make the playoffs.
23. Houston Texans. They beat Cleveland. Whoopee.
24. Cleveland Browns. The Browns have been put on notice. Will this increase urgency on this talented, but underachieving team?
25. Jacksonville Jaguars. They piss me off with their defensive play. It has cost me two games in Fantasy Football.
26. Oakland Raiders. THE RAIDERS CAN REALISTICALLY WIN THE AFC WEST. That ought to tell you how bad this division is.
27. Kansas City Chiefs. They Chiefs are playing much better, but they still are a few pieces short of a puzzle.
28. San Francisco 49ers. They could've jumped on Dallas early on Sunday and did not take advantage of sluggish early play by the Cowboys. Then the avalanche occurred.
29. Seattle Seahawks. Mike Holmgrem has to throw up in his throat thinking about going out like this.
30. St. Louis Rams. YIKES.
31. Cincinnati Bengals. They need to get rid of Chad Johnson. ASAP.
32. Detroit Lions. Goodness gracious SAKES alive... can they just go 0-16 and draft ANOTHER WR next year?
ESPN's NFL Week 13 Power Rankings
ESPN's NFL Week 13 Power Rankings
ESPN.com
1 (2) Giants 10-1-0 They were pretty impressive in beating the Cardinals without the services of Brandon Jacobs and Plaxico Burress. The G-Men have another tough road test at FedEx Field on Sunday. (MM)
2 (1) Titans 10-1-0 They probably were due for a dud. They need to re-establish the run. Who better to help than Detroit? (PK)
3 (6) Jets 8-3-0 Their victory over the previously unbeaten Titans gave them six wins in a row and made them the team to beat in the AFC. (TG)
4 (4) Steelers 8-3-0 Even on an off night, the Steelers still won by 17 points. That's the mark of a solid team. (JW)
5 (5) Buccaneers 8-3-0 The Bucs took care of business in Detroit by scoring on offense, defense and special teams. They might not be flashy, but they get the job done. (PY)
6 (8) Colts 7-4-0 The Colts have built a nice streak and now look to have easy stretch. (PK)
7 (3) Panthers 8-3-0 A defense that was supposed to be very good fell apart against Atlanta. The remaining schedule is brutal. (PY)
8 (10) Patriots 7-4-0 Matt Cassel has put together the best two weeks of any NFL quarterback. The Patriots are one game behind the Jets after drubbing the Dolphins in Miami. (TG)
9 (11) Cowboys 7-4-0 The Cowboys have a chance to reach 8-4 Thursday, then can sit back and root for the Giants on Sunday. Tony Romo looked like himself again in Week 12, and that's a great sign for the Cowboys. (MM)
10 (14) Falcons 7-4-0 The Falcons are coming off a huge win against Carolina and improving each week. (PY)
11 (7) Cardinals 7-4-0 Don't be surprised if the Cardinals find a way in Philadelphia. (MS)
12 (9) Redskins 7-4-0 They notched a solid road win against a Seahawks team that refuses to quit. This will be an unbelievably emotional week with the one-year anniversary of Sean Taylor's death. (MM)
13 (13) Ravens 7-4-0 After all these years, the Ravens finally feasted on an opposing team with quarterback issues. (JW)
14 (12) Dolphins 6-5-0 Their playoff hopes absorbed a major blow with a 20-point loss to the Patriots and a season-ending injury to leading receiver Greg Camarillo. (TG)
15 (19) Bears 6-5-0 There's nothing like a trip to St. Louis to raise your confidence. (KS)
16 (20) Saints 6-5-0 The Saints finally looked the way they were supposed to all along in the blowout victory over the Packers. (PY)
17 (21) Vikings 6-5-0 There is something to be said for accepting a gift game. Now, if only Adrian Peterson could remember what time that meeting is. (KS)
18 (18) Bills 6-5-0 The BIlls feasted on everybody's favorite slump-buster, the Kansas City Chiefs. (TG)
19 (15) Broncos 6-5-0 The Chiefs and Raiders have combined for four wins. Two have come against the AFC West division leader. Yikes. (BW)
20 (16) Packers 5-6-0 An embarrassing performance on MNF has left the Packers needing help to win the NFC North. (KS)
21 (17) Eagles 5-5-1 This is a team in turmoil. A loss against the Cardinals on Thursday could signal the immediate end of the Donovan McNabb era. (MM)
22 (22) Chargers 4-7-0 Can the Chargers take any more final-minute heartbreak? I think not. (BW)
23 (25) Texans 4-7-0 Not quite the MNF circumstances they expected when the schedule came out. (PK)
24 (23) Jaguars 4-7-0 The popular preseason pick to unseat the Colts is playing to avoid last place in its division. (PK)
25 (24) Browns 4-7-0 It's hard to put a finger on what this team will try to accomplish the rest of the season. (JW)
26 (31) Raiders 3-8-0 Tom Cable just beat Mike Shanahan by 21 points -- in Denver. Al Davis is a very happy man this week. (BW)
27 (26) 49ers 3-8-0 Interim coach Mike Singletary faces an uphill fight, as the 49ers play three of their next four games on the road. (MS)
28 (27) Seahawks 2-9-0 Next season can't arrive soon enough for the Seahawks, who are in transition. (MS)
29 (28) Rams 2-9-0 Steven Jackson could return this week, but the Rams' troubles go deeper. (MS)
30 (29) Bengals 1-9-1 The Chad Ocho Cinco trade watch begins in five weeks. (JW)
31 (30) Chiefs 1-10-0 The Chiefs punctuated their awful season by allowing 54 points, a franchise record. (BW)
32 (32) Lions 0-11-0 Calling all healthy quarterbacks: Can anyone stop the Lions' march to 0-16? (KS)
ESPN.com
1 (2) Giants 10-1-0 They were pretty impressive in beating the Cardinals without the services of Brandon Jacobs and Plaxico Burress. The G-Men have another tough road test at FedEx Field on Sunday. (MM)
2 (1) Titans 10-1-0 They probably were due for a dud. They need to re-establish the run. Who better to help than Detroit? (PK)
3 (6) Jets 8-3-0 Their victory over the previously unbeaten Titans gave them six wins in a row and made them the team to beat in the AFC. (TG)
4 (4) Steelers 8-3-0 Even on an off night, the Steelers still won by 17 points. That's the mark of a solid team. (JW)
5 (5) Buccaneers 8-3-0 The Bucs took care of business in Detroit by scoring on offense, defense and special teams. They might not be flashy, but they get the job done. (PY)
6 (8) Colts 7-4-0 The Colts have built a nice streak and now look to have easy stretch. (PK)
7 (3) Panthers 8-3-0 A defense that was supposed to be very good fell apart against Atlanta. The remaining schedule is brutal. (PY)
8 (10) Patriots 7-4-0 Matt Cassel has put together the best two weeks of any NFL quarterback. The Patriots are one game behind the Jets after drubbing the Dolphins in Miami. (TG)
9 (11) Cowboys 7-4-0 The Cowboys have a chance to reach 8-4 Thursday, then can sit back and root for the Giants on Sunday. Tony Romo looked like himself again in Week 12, and that's a great sign for the Cowboys. (MM)
10 (14) Falcons 7-4-0 The Falcons are coming off a huge win against Carolina and improving each week. (PY)
11 (7) Cardinals 7-4-0 Don't be surprised if the Cardinals find a way in Philadelphia. (MS)
12 (9) Redskins 7-4-0 They notched a solid road win against a Seahawks team that refuses to quit. This will be an unbelievably emotional week with the one-year anniversary of Sean Taylor's death. (MM)
13 (13) Ravens 7-4-0 After all these years, the Ravens finally feasted on an opposing team with quarterback issues. (JW)
14 (12) Dolphins 6-5-0 Their playoff hopes absorbed a major blow with a 20-point loss to the Patriots and a season-ending injury to leading receiver Greg Camarillo. (TG)
15 (19) Bears 6-5-0 There's nothing like a trip to St. Louis to raise your confidence. (KS)
16 (20) Saints 6-5-0 The Saints finally looked the way they were supposed to all along in the blowout victory over the Packers. (PY)
17 (21) Vikings 6-5-0 There is something to be said for accepting a gift game. Now, if only Adrian Peterson could remember what time that meeting is. (KS)
18 (18) Bills 6-5-0 The BIlls feasted on everybody's favorite slump-buster, the Kansas City Chiefs. (TG)
19 (15) Broncos 6-5-0 The Chiefs and Raiders have combined for four wins. Two have come against the AFC West division leader. Yikes. (BW)
20 (16) Packers 5-6-0 An embarrassing performance on MNF has left the Packers needing help to win the NFC North. (KS)
21 (17) Eagles 5-5-1 This is a team in turmoil. A loss against the Cardinals on Thursday could signal the immediate end of the Donovan McNabb era. (MM)
22 (22) Chargers 4-7-0 Can the Chargers take any more final-minute heartbreak? I think not. (BW)
23 (25) Texans 4-7-0 Not quite the MNF circumstances they expected when the schedule came out. (PK)
24 (23) Jaguars 4-7-0 The popular preseason pick to unseat the Colts is playing to avoid last place in its division. (PK)
25 (24) Browns 4-7-0 It's hard to put a finger on what this team will try to accomplish the rest of the season. (JW)
26 (31) Raiders 3-8-0 Tom Cable just beat Mike Shanahan by 21 points -- in Denver. Al Davis is a very happy man this week. (BW)
27 (26) 49ers 3-8-0 Interim coach Mike Singletary faces an uphill fight, as the 49ers play three of their next four games on the road. (MS)
28 (27) Seahawks 2-9-0 Next season can't arrive soon enough for the Seahawks, who are in transition. (MS)
29 (28) Rams 2-9-0 Steven Jackson could return this week, but the Rams' troubles go deeper. (MS)
30 (29) Bengals 1-9-1 The Chad Ocho Cinco trade watch begins in five weeks. (JW)
31 (30) Chiefs 1-10-0 The Chiefs punctuated their awful season by allowing 54 points, a franchise record. (BW)
32 (32) Lions 0-11-0 Calling all healthy quarterbacks: Can anyone stop the Lions' march to 0-16? (KS)
If the People Around Me Would Change
If the People Around Me Would Change
Valorie Burton
Author & Life Coach
Do you find yourself frustrated by the same types of occurrences in your life—over and over again?
Perhaps it is the aggressive people in the traffic you endure daily during your commute. Maybe it is the behavior of someone you deal with regularly who does not behave as you think they should. Or perhaps you do not like where you live, your job, your looks or some other aspect of your daily life. Your happiness does not have to be based on what happens around you or to you. On more than one occasion, I have learned this important lesson:
You won't become happy if someone else changes or if the world around you changes. You become happy when you change.
From a Greek prison cell, the apostle Paul wrote, "I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation," (Philippians 4:12). This week, I challenge you to choose happiness despite what happens around you. It is not what happens to you or what goes on around you that ultimately shapes your character and state of being. It is how you choose to respond to it. Things or people around you may be frustrating, but is your response to it making it more stressful or less stressful for you? Here are a few of the ways that you can make frustrating circumstances more stressful:
* Regularly complaining about your circumstances. Some people complain to anyone who will listen. Others complain repeatedly to themselves or the person closest to them. Make a decision to stop complaining. Find a solution or accept the situation as is.
* Always expecting the worst in people. Do you feel like the world is against you? If so, you'll respond to every situation in fear rather than love, thereby escalating the intensity of any potential conflict and its impact on your emotional state of being.
* Taking it personally when strangers are rude or inconsiderate. Have you noticed lately that people in general seem to be stressed and less considerate of others than they used to be? It has nothing to do with you. People have issues. So choose not to respond as though you are being personally attacked. If you do, you'll find yourself in victim mode nearly every time you leave your house!
* Blaming others for your unhappiness. "If only my spouse/kids/boss/friends would change, I would be happy." Do you ever find yourself saying something like this to yourself? Blaming others gives us an excuse not to take responsibility for our own happiness. Don't give your power away to others.
* Feeling sorry for yourself. "Why me? Why am I the one who has to deal with this? Everybody else's life is better." The truth is, everyone has to deal with something. Ask, "What's the lesson here? How can I come out of this a better person?" Choose to allow challenges to strengthen your faith rather than diminish it.
So how can you change when the world around you remains the same? You make a decision to do so. The key is to respond rather than react. A reaction is automatic. It doesn't require thought and is generated by external happenings. A response is inspired, generated internally through thought, contemplation and prayer. It means that despite the external happenings, you choose to answer button-pushing situations in a way that honors your desire for peace and happiness in your life.
Your decision to change does not mean that rude people are right or that frustrating friends or family members are not to be accountable for their words and actions. It simply means that your happiness and peace are not determined by what they do. Don't wait in vain for others to change or the world around you to change. You make the change.
My Challenge to You This Week:
Identify one change you can make that will allow you to experience contentment in a situation that upsets you. Let go of your attachment to the idea that someone or something must change in order for you to be happy. You make a decision to change.
Journaling Assignment:
By insisting something around you needs to change, what have you been able to avoid? (For example, taking responsibility for your own happiness, having a difficult conversation, etc.). How and when will you face the fear that has caused you to avoid what needs to be addressed?
Related Resource:
Are you in the place you'd hoped or expected to be? Is this the best life you could be living? Check out the Listen to Your Life book or DVD for more on how to pay attention to your deepest desires, listen to God's voice, and explore your gifts and talents.
Taken from Rich Minds, Rich Rewards E-Newsletter. Written and distributed by Inspire, Inc. © 2008 Valorie Burton. All rights reserved. Used with permission. www.valorieburton.com.
Valorie Burton, a life coach and speaker, is the author of Listen to Your Life, Rich Minds, Rich Rewards, What's Really Holding You Back?, Why Not You? and her latest, How Did I Get So Busy?.
Valorie Burton
Author & Life Coach
Do you find yourself frustrated by the same types of occurrences in your life—over and over again?
Perhaps it is the aggressive people in the traffic you endure daily during your commute. Maybe it is the behavior of someone you deal with regularly who does not behave as you think they should. Or perhaps you do not like where you live, your job, your looks or some other aspect of your daily life. Your happiness does not have to be based on what happens around you or to you. On more than one occasion, I have learned this important lesson:
You won't become happy if someone else changes or if the world around you changes. You become happy when you change.
From a Greek prison cell, the apostle Paul wrote, "I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation," (Philippians 4:12). This week, I challenge you to choose happiness despite what happens around you. It is not what happens to you or what goes on around you that ultimately shapes your character and state of being. It is how you choose to respond to it. Things or people around you may be frustrating, but is your response to it making it more stressful or less stressful for you? Here are a few of the ways that you can make frustrating circumstances more stressful:
* Regularly complaining about your circumstances. Some people complain to anyone who will listen. Others complain repeatedly to themselves or the person closest to them. Make a decision to stop complaining. Find a solution or accept the situation as is.
* Always expecting the worst in people. Do you feel like the world is against you? If so, you'll respond to every situation in fear rather than love, thereby escalating the intensity of any potential conflict and its impact on your emotional state of being.
* Taking it personally when strangers are rude or inconsiderate. Have you noticed lately that people in general seem to be stressed and less considerate of others than they used to be? It has nothing to do with you. People have issues. So choose not to respond as though you are being personally attacked. If you do, you'll find yourself in victim mode nearly every time you leave your house!
* Blaming others for your unhappiness. "If only my spouse/kids/boss/friends would change, I would be happy." Do you ever find yourself saying something like this to yourself? Blaming others gives us an excuse not to take responsibility for our own happiness. Don't give your power away to others.
* Feeling sorry for yourself. "Why me? Why am I the one who has to deal with this? Everybody else's life is better." The truth is, everyone has to deal with something. Ask, "What's the lesson here? How can I come out of this a better person?" Choose to allow challenges to strengthen your faith rather than diminish it.
So how can you change when the world around you remains the same? You make a decision to do so. The key is to respond rather than react. A reaction is automatic. It doesn't require thought and is generated by external happenings. A response is inspired, generated internally through thought, contemplation and prayer. It means that despite the external happenings, you choose to answer button-pushing situations in a way that honors your desire for peace and happiness in your life.
Your decision to change does not mean that rude people are right or that frustrating friends or family members are not to be accountable for their words and actions. It simply means that your happiness and peace are not determined by what they do. Don't wait in vain for others to change or the world around you to change. You make the change.
My Challenge to You This Week:
Identify one change you can make that will allow you to experience contentment in a situation that upsets you. Let go of your attachment to the idea that someone or something must change in order for you to be happy. You make a decision to change.
Journaling Assignment:
By insisting something around you needs to change, what have you been able to avoid? (For example, taking responsibility for your own happiness, having a difficult conversation, etc.). How and when will you face the fear that has caused you to avoid what needs to be addressed?
Related Resource:
Are you in the place you'd hoped or expected to be? Is this the best life you could be living? Check out the Listen to Your Life book or DVD for more on how to pay attention to your deepest desires, listen to God's voice, and explore your gifts and talents.
Taken from Rich Minds, Rich Rewards E-Newsletter. Written and distributed by Inspire, Inc. © 2008 Valorie Burton. All rights reserved. Used with permission. www.valorieburton.com.
Valorie Burton, a life coach and speaker, is the author of Listen to Your Life, Rich Minds, Rich Rewards, What's Really Holding You Back?, Why Not You? and her latest, How Did I Get So Busy?.
Obedience To God
Obedience to God
"Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer." Psalm 19:14
Not only what we talk about, but what we think about is screened by the Lord. Is it acceptable to the Lord?
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"It repenteth me that I have set up Saul to be king: for he is turned back from following me, and hath not performed my commandments. And it grieved Samuel; and he cried unto the Lord all night." I Samuel 15:11
Saul's problem is a common one. He thought his "overall performance" was good enough to see him through. All the while, God was placing the emphasis on obedience to specific directives. God has not changed. "to obey is better than sacrifice." (I Samuel 15:22)
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"I am the God of Bethel, where thou anointedst the pillar, and where thou vowedst a vow unto me: now arise, get thee out from this land, and return unto the land of thy kindred. Genesis 31:13
God has a running account of our kept and forgotten vows, and so often as the occasion arises, He calls for their fulfillment.
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"And the Lord said unto me, Arise, get thee down quickly from hence; for thy people which thou hast brought forth out of Egypt have corrupted themselves; they are quickly turned aside out of the way which I commanded them; they have made them a molten image." Deuteronomy 9:12
Humanity has not changed. When we lose touch with the true and living God, we start making our own. "Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shalt thou serve." (Luke 4:8)
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"Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come." St. John 16:13
One of our great problems is that we ask God for answers and guidance and then debate Him over His response. "Whatsoever he saith to you, do it." "We ought to obey God."
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"Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God." I Corinthians 10:31
Here is the argument settler. If you can't do a thing in accordance with His Word and will, don't do it. "Not my will, but thine, be done."
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"...And that the Lord hath said will we do, and be obedient." Exodus 24:7
God's paths are clear. It is our dull hearing that gets us into trouble. "Obedience is better than sacrifice." "We ought to obey God rather than man."
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"But this thing commanded I them, saying, Obey my voice, and I will be your God, and ye shall be my people: and walk ye in all the ways that I have commanded you, that it may be well unto you." Jeremiah 7:23
Here is a condition and a promise that we cannot afford to ignore if we are to live happy and fruitful lives.
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"And Jesus said unto them, Come ye after me, and I will make you to become fishers of men." St. Mark 1:17
Jesus beckons us to the world's greatest business. Only in eternity will we see just how great. Stop what you are doing and follow Jesus in this, the most rewarding work of all! "He that winneth souls is wise."
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"His lord said unto him, Well done, thou good and faithful servant: thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord." St. Matthew 25:21
Contrary to what we sometimes think, we will be rewarded not for our success but on the basis of our faithfulness. "Be thou faithful unto death, and I will give thee a crown of life."
Copyright © Saint Matthew's Churches.
"Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer." Psalm 19:14
Not only what we talk about, but what we think about is screened by the Lord. Is it acceptable to the Lord?
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
"It repenteth me that I have set up Saul to be king: for he is turned back from following me, and hath not performed my commandments. And it grieved Samuel; and he cried unto the Lord all night." I Samuel 15:11
Saul's problem is a common one. He thought his "overall performance" was good enough to see him through. All the while, God was placing the emphasis on obedience to specific directives. God has not changed. "to obey is better than sacrifice." (I Samuel 15:22)
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"I am the God of Bethel, where thou anointedst the pillar, and where thou vowedst a vow unto me: now arise, get thee out from this land, and return unto the land of thy kindred. Genesis 31:13
God has a running account of our kept and forgotten vows, and so often as the occasion arises, He calls for their fulfillment.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
"And the Lord said unto me, Arise, get thee down quickly from hence; for thy people which thou hast brought forth out of Egypt have corrupted themselves; they are quickly turned aside out of the way which I commanded them; they have made them a molten image." Deuteronomy 9:12
Humanity has not changed. When we lose touch with the true and living God, we start making our own. "Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shalt thou serve." (Luke 4:8)
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"Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come." St. John 16:13
One of our great problems is that we ask God for answers and guidance and then debate Him over His response. "Whatsoever he saith to you, do it." "We ought to obey God."
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"Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God." I Corinthians 10:31
Here is the argument settler. If you can't do a thing in accordance with His Word and will, don't do it. "Not my will, but thine, be done."
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"...And that the Lord hath said will we do, and be obedient." Exodus 24:7
God's paths are clear. It is our dull hearing that gets us into trouble. "Obedience is better than sacrifice." "We ought to obey God rather than man."
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"But this thing commanded I them, saying, Obey my voice, and I will be your God, and ye shall be my people: and walk ye in all the ways that I have commanded you, that it may be well unto you." Jeremiah 7:23
Here is a condition and a promise that we cannot afford to ignore if we are to live happy and fruitful lives.
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"And Jesus said unto them, Come ye after me, and I will make you to become fishers of men." St. Mark 1:17
Jesus beckons us to the world's greatest business. Only in eternity will we see just how great. Stop what you are doing and follow Jesus in this, the most rewarding work of all! "He that winneth souls is wise."
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"His lord said unto him, Well done, thou good and faithful servant: thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord." St. Matthew 25:21
Contrary to what we sometimes think, we will be rewarded not for our success but on the basis of our faithfulness. "Be thou faithful unto death, and I will give thee a crown of life."
Copyright © Saint Matthew's Churches.
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
Walking In Obedience
Walking In Obedience
The main motivating factor to walking in obedience should be our love for Jesus Christ.
Jesus said,
"If anyone loves Me, he will keep my word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him, and make Our abode with him. He who does not love Me does not keep My words..." (John 14:23, 24).
Obedience and faithfulness that are motivated by love will glorify God and build up His church.
There is a deep and satisfying communion between the obedient Christian and the Father.
"The one who says, ’I have come to know Him,’ and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him; but whoever keeps His word, in him the love of God has truly been perfected..." (1 John 2:4, 5)
Obedience that is not motivated by love cannot produce the spiritual fruit that God wants from His children. If we obey because of fear ("God may punish me!") or because of greed ("If I obey, God must bless me!"), then we cannot expect that close communion with the Father that Jesus promised to those who keep the Word .
"If you love Me, you will keep My commandments" (John 14:15).
Pray that God will give you a deeper love for Him - obedience will follow.
The Living Word Library © 1996 - 2008
editor@wordlibrary.co.uk
http://www.wordlibrary.co.uk/article.php?id=368
The main motivating factor to walking in obedience should be our love for Jesus Christ.
Jesus said,
"If anyone loves Me, he will keep my word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him, and make Our abode with him. He who does not love Me does not keep My words..." (John 14:23, 24).
Obedience and faithfulness that are motivated by love will glorify God and build up His church.
There is a deep and satisfying communion between the obedient Christian and the Father.
"The one who says, ’I have come to know Him,’ and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him; but whoever keeps His word, in him the love of God has truly been perfected..." (1 John 2:4, 5)
Obedience that is not motivated by love cannot produce the spiritual fruit that God wants from His children. If we obey because of fear ("God may punish me!") or because of greed ("If I obey, God must bless me!"), then we cannot expect that close communion with the Father that Jesus promised to those who keep the Word .
"If you love Me, you will keep My commandments" (John 14:15).
Pray that God will give you a deeper love for Him - obedience will follow.
The Living Word Library © 1996 - 2008
editor@wordlibrary.co.uk
http://www.wordlibrary.co.uk/article.php?id=368
Monday, November 24, 2008
Learning Obedience
Learning Obedience
By Dr. Charles Stanley
The life of obedience is a life of following Christ. If we commit ourselves to obeying God, He will train us until obedience becomes a way of life.
I. Obedience involves commitment. We can identify people who are committed to obeying God by two traits:
The truly committed are primarily concerned about grieving the heart of a loving God when they sin.
The truly committed are concerned with how the consequences of their sin will affect them and others.
II. Obedience always brings blessings, while disobedience always brings pain.
The curse of God is a declaration of His intended judgement on unbelievers.
Believers will face only God's loving chastisement, which may be painful, but is for their own good.
III. To learn obedience to God, we must:
Learn to wait upon the Lord in prayer (Isaiah 40:31).
Develop a love for the Word of God (Psalm. 119:23).
Realize that to obey God often means a head-on collision with human reasoning and the world system (Proverb. 1:6-7).
Know that sometimes God will allow us to walk in the dark so that we will learn to trust Him (Proverb. 3:5-6).
Expect some inner struggles (Romans. 7:15).
Learn that there is no substitute for obedience (Deuteronomy. 11:26-28).
Learn to leave all the consequences of our obedience to God (Proverb. 16:3).
As believers, we will face many decisions in life. But our ultimate question when making choices should be: Is this decision in keeping with my commitment to obey God?
Questions for Reflection
In addition to your decision to receive Christ, have you made a commitment to be obedient to God?
Is there an area of your life in which you struggle to be obedient?
What is preventing you from submitting your whole life - your relationships, your future, your job, your health, your children - to the Lordship of Jesus?
Examine the above list of seven steps to obedience. Do you have trouble with one in particular? If so, memorize the corresponding Scripture passage for encouragement.
Prayer
"Lord, help me to be obedient to you. Place within my heart the desire to demonstrate my love for You through obeying Your Word.
By Dr. Charles Stanley
The life of obedience is a life of following Christ. If we commit ourselves to obeying God, He will train us until obedience becomes a way of life.
I. Obedience involves commitment. We can identify people who are committed to obeying God by two traits:
The truly committed are primarily concerned about grieving the heart of a loving God when they sin.
The truly committed are concerned with how the consequences of their sin will affect them and others.
II. Obedience always brings blessings, while disobedience always brings pain.
The curse of God is a declaration of His intended judgement on unbelievers.
Believers will face only God's loving chastisement, which may be painful, but is for their own good.
III. To learn obedience to God, we must:
Learn to wait upon the Lord in prayer (Isaiah 40:31).
Develop a love for the Word of God (Psalm. 119:23).
Realize that to obey God often means a head-on collision with human reasoning and the world system (Proverb. 1:6-7).
Know that sometimes God will allow us to walk in the dark so that we will learn to trust Him (Proverb. 3:5-6).
Expect some inner struggles (Romans. 7:15).
Learn that there is no substitute for obedience (Deuteronomy. 11:26-28).
Learn to leave all the consequences of our obedience to God (Proverb. 16:3).
As believers, we will face many decisions in life. But our ultimate question when making choices should be: Is this decision in keeping with my commitment to obey God?
Questions for Reflection
In addition to your decision to receive Christ, have you made a commitment to be obedient to God?
Is there an area of your life in which you struggle to be obedient?
What is preventing you from submitting your whole life - your relationships, your future, your job, your health, your children - to the Lordship of Jesus?
Examine the above list of seven steps to obedience. Do you have trouble with one in particular? If so, memorize the corresponding Scripture passage for encouragement.
Prayer
"Lord, help me to be obedient to you. Place within my heart the desire to demonstrate my love for You through obeying Your Word.
Friday, November 21, 2008
Grace, Works & Obedience
Grace, Works & Obedience
Like John, Jesus Christ said we must bear fruit. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit. By this My Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit; so you will be My disciples (John 15:5,8).
Some are confused because Jesus clearly expects us to produce fruit. They interpret this to mean that we somehow earn our salvation. Earning our salvation, of course, is impossible. Salvation is a free, undeserved gift from God. We could not earn salvation in a hundred lifetimes of performing good deeds.
We are not saved by our works. Only the sacrifice of Christ's shed blood can cleanse us from our sins. Our thoughts cannot accomplish this, nor can any other actions we can take. Because Christ is alive and actively involved in converting us, we will be saved by His life.
Paul made this clear: "But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Much more then, having now been justified by His blood, we shall be saved from wrath through Him. For if when we were enemies we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, much more, having been reconciled, we shall be saved by His life" (Romans 5:8-10 ). Christ living in us enables us to do good works (Galatians 2:20).
Grace, works and obedience are complementary rather than contradictory terms. The word grace comes from a Greek word that means "gift" or "favor." Salvation, or eternal life, is a gift we receive by grace (Romans 6:23; Ephesians 2:8,9). No amount of works or effort on our part could ever earn us eternal life. However, eternal life is not free. Christ paid for it with His life so we could receive the gift of salvation (Acts 20:28).
Conditions for eternal life
But there are conditions. The first is that we repent. Repentance earns us nothing; we deserve no favors because we repent. But repentance is required. Why? Repentance is a condition for forgiveness (Acts 2:38). God simply will not forgive those who willingly continue in sin. Paul wrote: "What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? Certainly not! How shall we who died to sin live any longer in it?" (Romans 6:1,2).
We must change the direction of our lives as a prerequisite for receiving God"s gift of salvation. That is what both Christ and the apostles taught. Paul declared . . . "(we) should repent, turn to God, and do works befitting repentance" (Acts 26:20). Works demonstrate our repentance to God, but they will never earn us the right to demand anything from God so we could boast that we deserve eternal life. That can never be.
God expects us to include good works in our lives to demonstrate repentance, love, faith and gratitude for what Christ did for us on the cross, and of the love of God that is in us. James explicitly states that "faith without works is dead" (James 2:20,26), and Paul makes it plain that God saves us by grace through faith for the very purpose of producing good works, even though those good works cannot earn our salvation.
"For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast. For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them" (Ephesians 2:8-10). Why should this be so difficult for people to believe and accept? It is simply walking in Christ's footsteps, following His example (1 John 2:6).
Purpose of good works
What is the purpose of good works? Jesus said, "Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven" (Matthew 5:16). Though works do not earn us eternal life, they do glorify, or honor, God, and God requires that we honor Him by the way we live. People who refuse to include works in their lives are, whether they realize it or not, dishonoring God. "They profess to know God, but in works they deny Him, being abominable, disobedient, and disqualified for every good work" (Titus 1:16).
Do works ever earn us anything? Revelation 20:12 says the dead are going to be judged "according to their works." In John 14:2,3, we find Jesus explaining that He would "prepare a place" for His followers. In the coming Kingdom of God there will be various positions of authority and rulership that God will grant to those who overcome (Revelation 2:26, 3:21). The resurrected saints will rule with Jesus Christ in His Kingdom (Revelation 20:4,6). Through submission to God, allowing His Spirit to lead us, and living a life of good works, we build righteous, godly character that will enable us to rule with Jesus Christ.
Though our works will not earn us salvation, they will determine our reward in His Kingdom. Jesus explained this in His parable of the talents (Matthew 25:20-29). Our Lord also made this clear in Revelation 22:12 when He said, "I am coming quickly, and My reward is with Me, to give to every one according to his work."
In verse 14 John further says, "Blessed are those who do His commandments, that they may have the right to the tree of life and may enter through the gates into the city." Through God's grace, the gift of eternal life is given to those who demonstrate their faith in God by their obedience.
United Church of God, an International Association.
Like John, Jesus Christ said we must bear fruit. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit. By this My Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit; so you will be My disciples (John 15:5,8).
Some are confused because Jesus clearly expects us to produce fruit. They interpret this to mean that we somehow earn our salvation. Earning our salvation, of course, is impossible. Salvation is a free, undeserved gift from God. We could not earn salvation in a hundred lifetimes of performing good deeds.
We are not saved by our works. Only the sacrifice of Christ's shed blood can cleanse us from our sins. Our thoughts cannot accomplish this, nor can any other actions we can take. Because Christ is alive and actively involved in converting us, we will be saved by His life.
Paul made this clear: "But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Much more then, having now been justified by His blood, we shall be saved from wrath through Him. For if when we were enemies we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, much more, having been reconciled, we shall be saved by His life" (Romans 5:8-10 ). Christ living in us enables us to do good works (Galatians 2:20).
Grace, works and obedience are complementary rather than contradictory terms. The word grace comes from a Greek word that means "gift" or "favor." Salvation, or eternal life, is a gift we receive by grace (Romans 6:23; Ephesians 2:8,9). No amount of works or effort on our part could ever earn us eternal life. However, eternal life is not free. Christ paid for it with His life so we could receive the gift of salvation (Acts 20:28).
Conditions for eternal life
But there are conditions. The first is that we repent. Repentance earns us nothing; we deserve no favors because we repent. But repentance is required. Why? Repentance is a condition for forgiveness (Acts 2:38). God simply will not forgive those who willingly continue in sin. Paul wrote: "What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? Certainly not! How shall we who died to sin live any longer in it?" (Romans 6:1,2).
We must change the direction of our lives as a prerequisite for receiving God"s gift of salvation. That is what both Christ and the apostles taught. Paul declared . . . "(we) should repent, turn to God, and do works befitting repentance" (Acts 26:20). Works demonstrate our repentance to God, but they will never earn us the right to demand anything from God so we could boast that we deserve eternal life. That can never be.
God expects us to include good works in our lives to demonstrate repentance, love, faith and gratitude for what Christ did for us on the cross, and of the love of God that is in us. James explicitly states that "faith without works is dead" (James 2:20,26), and Paul makes it plain that God saves us by grace through faith for the very purpose of producing good works, even though those good works cannot earn our salvation.
"For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast. For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them" (Ephesians 2:8-10). Why should this be so difficult for people to believe and accept? It is simply walking in Christ's footsteps, following His example (1 John 2:6).
Purpose of good works
What is the purpose of good works? Jesus said, "Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven" (Matthew 5:16). Though works do not earn us eternal life, they do glorify, or honor, God, and God requires that we honor Him by the way we live. People who refuse to include works in their lives are, whether they realize it or not, dishonoring God. "They profess to know God, but in works they deny Him, being abominable, disobedient, and disqualified for every good work" (Titus 1:16).
Do works ever earn us anything? Revelation 20:12 says the dead are going to be judged "according to their works." In John 14:2,3, we find Jesus explaining that He would "prepare a place" for His followers. In the coming Kingdom of God there will be various positions of authority and rulership that God will grant to those who overcome (Revelation 2:26, 3:21). The resurrected saints will rule with Jesus Christ in His Kingdom (Revelation 20:4,6). Through submission to God, allowing His Spirit to lead us, and living a life of good works, we build righteous, godly character that will enable us to rule with Jesus Christ.
Though our works will not earn us salvation, they will determine our reward in His Kingdom. Jesus explained this in His parable of the talents (Matthew 25:20-29). Our Lord also made this clear in Revelation 22:12 when He said, "I am coming quickly, and My reward is with Me, to give to every one according to his work."
In verse 14 John further says, "Blessed are those who do His commandments, that they may have the right to the tree of life and may enter through the gates into the city." Through God's grace, the gift of eternal life is given to those who demonstrate their faith in God by their obedience.
United Church of God, an International Association.
If Money Were No Object...
If Money Were No Object...
Dan Miller
48Days.com
Does this reader question/comment ring any bells with you?
“I have never understood the question (or variations on it) of 'What would you do if you didn’t have to worry about money?' as advice for finding one’s calling. I guess it’s because I would stay in bed, eat junk food, and watch TV. I’ve never seen any job that had any real purpose either, so who I would want to trade places with is meaningless as well. Can’t really say I’ve ever felt alive.”
Here’s why the question makes sense. In as much as you may think you really would lie around the house, eat Twinkies and watch Seinfeld reruns – my observation is that no one enjoys doing that for more than a couple of weeks. I’ve had the pleasure of working with lots of people over the years for whom making money was no longer an issue. But that really brings to the forefront the question: “ What would you do if you didn’t have to worry about money?” Those people don’t have the easy out that, “I only work because I have to.”
See it’s actually a whole lot easier to just barely squeak by week after week – having no extra time and certainly no extra money. In that situation no one expects you to deal with the important questions of life – you’re just doing what you have to do, right? But when confronted with having more time and money than ever needed, a person has to really decide, “How am I going to invest my time – and money?” "How can I make the world a better place?" “How am I going to make my life matter?” Yes, you really can have only so many cars, cruises, houses, and pieces of art. And my observation is that those people are immediately attracted to ideas that serve others. I don’t see many who want to plan to spend it all selfishly and just die on the same day the last dollar is spent. Rather, they, like some of you are already doing, look for ways to:
Share your time and money with those who have not had your same advantages
Bring hope and encouragement to others
Volunteer in a worthy church or community program
Start a social entrepreneurship venture
Sponsor a children’s sports program
Revitalize the downtown area of your town
Give money strategically – not just 10% dropped into the collection plate
Teach life skills to those with self-defeating patterns
’Feeling Alive’ is one of those interesting by-products. It’s not something we can approach directly – it flows out of a meaningful life. You may think you are eagerly awaiting ‘retirement.’ But time invested in meaningful activities makes ‘retirement’ diminish in its attraction.
So go ahead: spend three days staying in bed, eating Moon Pies, and watching the political drivel the news teams conjure up. See how quickly you feel worthless in body, mind and spirit.
But here’s the deal. You don’t have to wait until retirement or until you win the lottery to decide what you would do if money were no longer the issue. You really can just make those decisions now – live as if you have an abundance of time and money. Start one of the above activities today. And you might be surprised at what happens to your actual bank account when you realize what you already have to give and share.
And if you want to see what can happen to someone who just wants to eat, drink and be merry, check this out: Eat, Drink and Be Merry (Luke 12: 18)
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Dan Miller is today's leading authority and personality on careers and 'Work You LoveTM'. As bestselling author of 48 Days To The Work You Love, and now No More Mondays, Dan reaches over a million people every month ia his newsletter, podcast, and blog with the best trends and opportunities in the workplace and small business. For more information, visit http://www.48days.com.
Dan Miller
48Days.com
Does this reader question/comment ring any bells with you?
“I have never understood the question (or variations on it) of 'What would you do if you didn’t have to worry about money?' as advice for finding one’s calling. I guess it’s because I would stay in bed, eat junk food, and watch TV. I’ve never seen any job that had any real purpose either, so who I would want to trade places with is meaningless as well. Can’t really say I’ve ever felt alive.”
Here’s why the question makes sense. In as much as you may think you really would lie around the house, eat Twinkies and watch Seinfeld reruns – my observation is that no one enjoys doing that for more than a couple of weeks. I’ve had the pleasure of working with lots of people over the years for whom making money was no longer an issue. But that really brings to the forefront the question: “ What would you do if you didn’t have to worry about money?” Those people don’t have the easy out that, “I only work because I have to.”
See it’s actually a whole lot easier to just barely squeak by week after week – having no extra time and certainly no extra money. In that situation no one expects you to deal with the important questions of life – you’re just doing what you have to do, right? But when confronted with having more time and money than ever needed, a person has to really decide, “How am I going to invest my time – and money?” "How can I make the world a better place?" “How am I going to make my life matter?” Yes, you really can have only so many cars, cruises, houses, and pieces of art. And my observation is that those people are immediately attracted to ideas that serve others. I don’t see many who want to plan to spend it all selfishly and just die on the same day the last dollar is spent. Rather, they, like some of you are already doing, look for ways to:
Share your time and money with those who have not had your same advantages
Bring hope and encouragement to others
Volunteer in a worthy church or community program
Start a social entrepreneurship venture
Sponsor a children’s sports program
Revitalize the downtown area of your town
Give money strategically – not just 10% dropped into the collection plate
Teach life skills to those with self-defeating patterns
’Feeling Alive’ is one of those interesting by-products. It’s not something we can approach directly – it flows out of a meaningful life. You may think you are eagerly awaiting ‘retirement.’ But time invested in meaningful activities makes ‘retirement’ diminish in its attraction.
So go ahead: spend three days staying in bed, eating Moon Pies, and watching the political drivel the news teams conjure up. See how quickly you feel worthless in body, mind and spirit.
But here’s the deal. You don’t have to wait until retirement or until you win the lottery to decide what you would do if money were no longer the issue. You really can just make those decisions now – live as if you have an abundance of time and money. Start one of the above activities today. And you might be surprised at what happens to your actual bank account when you realize what you already have to give and share.
And if you want to see what can happen to someone who just wants to eat, drink and be merry, check this out: Eat, Drink and Be Merry (Luke 12: 18)
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Finding Your Calcutta
Finding Your Calcutta
Laura MacCorkle
Crosswalk.com Senior Entertainment Editor
"I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me."
Matthew 25:40, NIV
In Finding Calcutta: What Mother Teresa Taught Me About Meaningful Work and Service, college professor Mary Poplin tells her story of volunteering for two months in Calcutta, India, with Mother Teresa and the Missionaries of Charity.
It was the summer of '96, and being a new Christian, Mary was on a quest to explore all the parts of the body of Christ and to understand what it means to serve Christ as his follower. But never before had she been so close to such outward poverty or exposed to the "least of these" - those who no one else wanted to help.
During her time working in a home called Shishu Bhavan, Mary cared for children ranging in age from newborn to 10 years old - some were handicapped or deformed, others were sick with illnesses such as malaria or tuberculosis, and still others had mild forms of retardation. While helping these helpless, needy little ones, she came to realize that not all poverty is apparent to the human eye.
"Mother [Teresa] told me how people in the West are poor," she says. "In fact, she considered us the poorest of the poor spiritually because our physical comfort makes us believe we do not need God and our busyness makes us ignore him."
After her two-month stay - and with new eyes - Mary was able to clearly see the meaning of Mother Teresa's words: "Find the sick, the suffering and the lonely right there where you are. ... You can find Calcutta all over the world, if you have eyes to see."
But where was Mary's "Calcutta" and where was God calling her? How was she supposed to find it back in the comfortable and wealthy United States - where most of us never think we will encounter the "poorest of the poor"?
Mary says, "Often people teach that to know our calling, we must know our spiritual gifts, desires, opportunities and special skills. Clearly, these are useful. However it is perhaps even more the case that our crises and grievings reveal our call."
Her crisis of faith came as a result of her involvement in higher education. Like many of her colleagues, for years she had believed that Christianity was oppressive and the root of most social ills in the world. But through various measures - and a fellow professor whose life lived before her was a powerful testimony and whose "deep peace" disconcerted her - she opened her life to Christ.
At this point, it's not hard to figure out where Mary would eventually find her Calcutta. Upon her return home, her watershed moment came when she was asked to speak about her time with Mother Teresa before an annual conference of women school administrators.
While standing before her peers - and with the tears flowing freely - she knew at that moment that she was called to reach the university world with the love and truth of Christ. It was the very same world where God had revealed himself to her!
And it was there that Mary found her Calcutta.
***
Where is your Calcutta? As close as your home? Perhaps next door? Maybe further down the road at your workplace? Or even on a mission field miles away? If we empty ourselves, God can reach hearts and minds through you and me. Ask him where "your Calcutta" is today so that you may live out the love of Christ to the physically - and spiritually - poorest of the poor.
Further Reading
Matthew 5:14-16, NIV
Romans 10:15, NIV
Laura MacCorkle
Crosswalk.com Senior Entertainment Editor
"I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me."
Matthew 25:40, NIV
In Finding Calcutta: What Mother Teresa Taught Me About Meaningful Work and Service, college professor Mary Poplin tells her story of volunteering for two months in Calcutta, India, with Mother Teresa and the Missionaries of Charity.
It was the summer of '96, and being a new Christian, Mary was on a quest to explore all the parts of the body of Christ and to understand what it means to serve Christ as his follower. But never before had she been so close to such outward poverty or exposed to the "least of these" - those who no one else wanted to help.
During her time working in a home called Shishu Bhavan, Mary cared for children ranging in age from newborn to 10 years old - some were handicapped or deformed, others were sick with illnesses such as malaria or tuberculosis, and still others had mild forms of retardation. While helping these helpless, needy little ones, she came to realize that not all poverty is apparent to the human eye.
"Mother [Teresa] told me how people in the West are poor," she says. "In fact, she considered us the poorest of the poor spiritually because our physical comfort makes us believe we do not need God and our busyness makes us ignore him."
After her two-month stay - and with new eyes - Mary was able to clearly see the meaning of Mother Teresa's words: "Find the sick, the suffering and the lonely right there where you are. ... You can find Calcutta all over the world, if you have eyes to see."
But where was Mary's "Calcutta" and where was God calling her? How was she supposed to find it back in the comfortable and wealthy United States - where most of us never think we will encounter the "poorest of the poor"?
Mary says, "Often people teach that to know our calling, we must know our spiritual gifts, desires, opportunities and special skills. Clearly, these are useful. However it is perhaps even more the case that our crises and grievings reveal our call."
Her crisis of faith came as a result of her involvement in higher education. Like many of her colleagues, for years she had believed that Christianity was oppressive and the root of most social ills in the world. But through various measures - and a fellow professor whose life lived before her was a powerful testimony and whose "deep peace" disconcerted her - she opened her life to Christ.
At this point, it's not hard to figure out where Mary would eventually find her Calcutta. Upon her return home, her watershed moment came when she was asked to speak about her time with Mother Teresa before an annual conference of women school administrators.
While standing before her peers - and with the tears flowing freely - she knew at that moment that she was called to reach the university world with the love and truth of Christ. It was the very same world where God had revealed himself to her!
And it was there that Mary found her Calcutta.
***
Where is your Calcutta? As close as your home? Perhaps next door? Maybe further down the road at your workplace? Or even on a mission field miles away? If we empty ourselves, God can reach hearts and minds through you and me. Ask him where "your Calcutta" is today so that you may live out the love of Christ to the physically - and spiritually - poorest of the poor.
Further Reading
Matthew 5:14-16, NIV
Romans 10:15, NIV
Don't Judge On Appearances
Don't Judge On Appearances
Cliff Young
Crosswalk.com Contributing Writer
The average man’s judgment is so poor; he runs a risk every time he uses it.
— Edgar Watson Howe, American Editor
Have you judged a person not worthy to get to know or start a relationship with?
Have you judged yourself as not good enough for something or somebody?
Have you judged a situation to be insurmountable with no hope of change?
We tend to make these determinations because we base our conclusion about others, ourselves, and our situation on superficial information and perception rather than on knowledge and discernment. We see the same every night on television reality shows, political commentaries, and even sports reports. Judgment is made by the way things appear instead of with accurate information and understanding.
Stop judging by the way things look (mere appearance), and make a right judgment (John 7:24).
Others
Have you ever labeled someone in your mind as a result of a first impression? I catch myself making assumptions or passing judgment (positively and negatively) on people based upon their affiliations, the way they look, what their profession is or where they may live. I know this isn’t what God wants me to do, nor do I consciously set out to make such judgments, yet I inherently fall short.
God did not create the division, denominations, or political parties separating us today. We have. As a result, we use these dividing lines to categorize and make assumptions instead of getting to know others for who they really are. When we label people, we put them into a “box.” This limits our thinking, how we care about others, how we treat people, and how we share God’s love.
When a Samaritan woman came to draw water, Jesus said to her, “Will you give me a drink?”….The Samaritan woman said to him, “You are a Jew and I am a Samaritan woman. How can you ask me for a drink?” (For Jews do not associate with Samaritans) (John 4:7, 9).
Regardless of appearance, background, heritage, gender and even tradition—Jesus initiated a conversation with the Samaritan woman accepting her for who she was and to offer her eternal life.
If we are striving to live a life that is Spirit-filled and more like Jesus, we should make every effort to interact with people in the same way Jesus did, with compassion, forgiveness, grace, mercy and love.
Don’t judge others solely on appearance. Take the time to get to know a person’s heart and their character. You are the one who might be changed.
Ourselves
Have you ever looked into the mirror and felt discouraged? Do you compare your talents, abilities, and possessions to others and feel you were overlooked by God in some ways? I fall into this trap and often ask myself, “Why do I evaluate myself through the eyes of society and media rather than through the eyes of Jesus?!”
The world’s opinion is temporal. We rarely keep up with the latest hairstyle, fashion, cars or gadgets for a season, let alone throughout our lives. However, if we have a Kingdom perspective, we will begin to accept ourselves for who we are, a child of God. We can then appreciate our differences and embrace the individual journey God has for each of us.
God doesn’t think of us as ordinary, common, or unremarkable. He sees beautiful, extraordinary, valuable creations formed with His hands and exactly the way He designed.
So God created man in His own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them (Genesis 1:27).
Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight (1 Peter 3:3-4).
The Pharisees were some of the most pride-filled, judgmental individuals of their time. Adorned in their robes and embellishments, they would stride through the temple courts thinking highly of themselves while looking down upon others. Though they may have been emulated by some because of their outward appearance, their hearts were hardened and their focus was on themselves rather than on God.
They (Pharisees) don’t practice what they teach….Everything they do is for show….They enjoy the attention they get on the streets (Matthew 23:3, 5, 7).
Don’t scrutinize over yourself based upon ever-changing guidelines set by the world’s standards. Praise God for the uniqueness in which He created you.
Our Situation
It’s easy to feel pessimistic at how the state of our country, our family (or lack of) and our life appears. We wake up each day to the uncertainties of national security, high taxes, gas prices, job security, debt and the stock market. We can choose to approach our circumstances by complaining, blaming others, doing nothing, and hoping for a change, or we can seek ways to alter it.
Paul shares his secret of how to deal with every situation.
I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether in plenty or in want. I can do everything through Him who gives me strength (Philippians 4:12-13).
He tells us we can do (by taking action) everything (having no limits) through Him (through God) who gives us strength (with the ability to accomplish it). I truly believe this.
I have asked Jesus to be the Lord of my life. Yet, when I worry about and evaluate situations based on how they may appear (taking too long, going a different direction, no foreseeable solution, etc.), I do not demonstrate my trust in Him. Asking ourselves, “Have I completely given ‘it’ (job, relationships, family, finances, etc.) to Him?” will continue to mature us in Christ.
Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not on your own understanding (nor how it may look) (Proverbs 3:5).
Lift up your specific concern to the Lord and ask Him to show you the direction and action to take. Be patient and prayerful—the answer may be “yes,” “no,” or “not yet.”
I have discovered that basing my judgment and conclusions on how people and situations appear is often flawed as a result of my own restricted vision. It reminds me of the time I began watching a 3-D animated movie without 3-D specific glasses. Even though I could see the picture, it was blurred and distorted. With the appropriate lenses, however, the whole screen came alive with color, depth and clarity.
I often struggle seeing how God is using me or those around me. It may be difficult comprehending how my current situation will help me grow or where it may lead. However, if I continually look at my life and my surroundings through Jesus’ eyes and perspective, I will see myself, others and my situation with love, joy, peace and patience.
May you be blessed for your good judgment… (1 Samuel 25:33).
Cliff Young is a contributing writer to Sandlot Stories (ARose Books), as well as the monthly column, "He Said-She Said," in Crosswalk.com's Singles Channel. An architect and former youth worker, he now works with Christian musicians and consults for a number of Christian ministries. Got feedback? Send your comments and questions to CYdmg@yahoo.com.
Cliff Young
Crosswalk.com Contributing Writer
The average man’s judgment is so poor; he runs a risk every time he uses it.
— Edgar Watson Howe, American Editor
Have you judged a person not worthy to get to know or start a relationship with?
Have you judged yourself as not good enough for something or somebody?
Have you judged a situation to be insurmountable with no hope of change?
We tend to make these determinations because we base our conclusion about others, ourselves, and our situation on superficial information and perception rather than on knowledge and discernment. We see the same every night on television reality shows, political commentaries, and even sports reports. Judgment is made by the way things appear instead of with accurate information and understanding.
Stop judging by the way things look (mere appearance), and make a right judgment (John 7:24).
Others
Have you ever labeled someone in your mind as a result of a first impression? I catch myself making assumptions or passing judgment (positively and negatively) on people based upon their affiliations, the way they look, what their profession is or where they may live. I know this isn’t what God wants me to do, nor do I consciously set out to make such judgments, yet I inherently fall short.
God did not create the division, denominations, or political parties separating us today. We have. As a result, we use these dividing lines to categorize and make assumptions instead of getting to know others for who they really are. When we label people, we put them into a “box.” This limits our thinking, how we care about others, how we treat people, and how we share God’s love.
When a Samaritan woman came to draw water, Jesus said to her, “Will you give me a drink?”….The Samaritan woman said to him, “You are a Jew and I am a Samaritan woman. How can you ask me for a drink?” (For Jews do not associate with Samaritans) (John 4:7, 9).
Regardless of appearance, background, heritage, gender and even tradition—Jesus initiated a conversation with the Samaritan woman accepting her for who she was and to offer her eternal life.
If we are striving to live a life that is Spirit-filled and more like Jesus, we should make every effort to interact with people in the same way Jesus did, with compassion, forgiveness, grace, mercy and love.
Don’t judge others solely on appearance. Take the time to get to know a person’s heart and their character. You are the one who might be changed.
Ourselves
Have you ever looked into the mirror and felt discouraged? Do you compare your talents, abilities, and possessions to others and feel you were overlooked by God in some ways? I fall into this trap and often ask myself, “Why do I evaluate myself through the eyes of society and media rather than through the eyes of Jesus?!”
The world’s opinion is temporal. We rarely keep up with the latest hairstyle, fashion, cars or gadgets for a season, let alone throughout our lives. However, if we have a Kingdom perspective, we will begin to accept ourselves for who we are, a child of God. We can then appreciate our differences and embrace the individual journey God has for each of us.
God doesn’t think of us as ordinary, common, or unremarkable. He sees beautiful, extraordinary, valuable creations formed with His hands and exactly the way He designed.
So God created man in His own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them (Genesis 1:27).
Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight (1 Peter 3:3-4).
The Pharisees were some of the most pride-filled, judgmental individuals of their time. Adorned in their robes and embellishments, they would stride through the temple courts thinking highly of themselves while looking down upon others. Though they may have been emulated by some because of their outward appearance, their hearts were hardened and their focus was on themselves rather than on God.
They (Pharisees) don’t practice what they teach….Everything they do is for show….They enjoy the attention they get on the streets (Matthew 23:3, 5, 7).
Don’t scrutinize over yourself based upon ever-changing guidelines set by the world’s standards. Praise God for the uniqueness in which He created you.
Our Situation
It’s easy to feel pessimistic at how the state of our country, our family (or lack of) and our life appears. We wake up each day to the uncertainties of national security, high taxes, gas prices, job security, debt and the stock market. We can choose to approach our circumstances by complaining, blaming others, doing nothing, and hoping for a change, or we can seek ways to alter it.
Paul shares his secret of how to deal with every situation.
I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether in plenty or in want. I can do everything through Him who gives me strength (Philippians 4:12-13).
He tells us we can do (by taking action) everything (having no limits) through Him (through God) who gives us strength (with the ability to accomplish it). I truly believe this.
I have asked Jesus to be the Lord of my life. Yet, when I worry about and evaluate situations based on how they may appear (taking too long, going a different direction, no foreseeable solution, etc.), I do not demonstrate my trust in Him. Asking ourselves, “Have I completely given ‘it’ (job, relationships, family, finances, etc.) to Him?” will continue to mature us in Christ.
Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not on your own understanding (nor how it may look) (Proverbs 3:5).
Lift up your specific concern to the Lord and ask Him to show you the direction and action to take. Be patient and prayerful—the answer may be “yes,” “no,” or “not yet.”
I have discovered that basing my judgment and conclusions on how people and situations appear is often flawed as a result of my own restricted vision. It reminds me of the time I began watching a 3-D animated movie without 3-D specific glasses. Even though I could see the picture, it was blurred and distorted. With the appropriate lenses, however, the whole screen came alive with color, depth and clarity.
I often struggle seeing how God is using me or those around me. It may be difficult comprehending how my current situation will help me grow or where it may lead. However, if I continually look at my life and my surroundings through Jesus’ eyes and perspective, I will see myself, others and my situation with love, joy, peace and patience.
May you be blessed for your good judgment… (1 Samuel 25:33).
Cliff Young is a contributing writer to Sandlot Stories (ARose Books), as well as the monthly column, "He Said-She Said," in Crosswalk.com's Singles Channel. An architect and former youth worker, he now works with Christian musicians and consults for a number of Christian ministries. Got feedback? Send your comments and questions to CYdmg@yahoo.com.
Thursday, November 20, 2008
NFL Week 12 Picks: Express Edition III
NFL Week 12 Picks: Express Edition III
M.D. Wright
11.20.08
I've been making out better the past three or four weeks, as I've FINALLY figured some of these teams. THEY ARE WHO I THOUGHT THEY WERE!!!
There's a game tonight, hence the "Express Edition".
Cincinnati Bengals vs. Pittsburgh Steelers
Heinz Field
Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
*THURSDAY NIGHT FOOTBALL -- NFL Network*
The line on this game is CIN (+9). It ought to be higher than that. The Bengals are missing half their starting lineup on both sides of the ball. This will be ugly.
Call:
Cincinnati 9
Pittsburgh 27
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Houston Texans vs. Cleveland Browns
Cleveland Browns Stadium
Cleveland, Ohio
I have given up on the Texans and Brady Quinn is at least doing some of the things that "D.A." couldn't/wasn't.
Call:
Houston 17
Cleveland 23
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San Francisco 49ers vs. Dallas Cowboys
Texas Stadium
Irving, Texas
This is my upset special of the week. The Cowboys may have won last week, but they are by no means dominant. Mike Singletary has the Niners playing with fire and they're looking much better of late. Especially defensively. The Cowboys should continue running the ball if they expect to keep the leg up on the rest of the teams vying for the last Wild Card spot. This will be close, and I think the Niners are going to pull off an "upset".
Call:
San Francisco 27
Dallas 23
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Tampa Bay Buccaneers vs. Detroit Lions
Ford Field
Detroit, Michigan
LMAO.
Call:
Tampa Bay 20
Detroit -4 (To match the wind chill up there hah).
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New York Football Jets vs. Tennessee Titans
LP Field
Nashville, Tennessee
*GAME OF THE WEEK*
The Jets are relevant again! The Titans have been begging for a loss of late. They do not evoke visions of the 1998 Denver Broncos and Minnesota Vikings, nor the 2007 Vikings in being 10-0. I keep telling people Collins is going to commit backbreaking turnovers when the Titans can least afford it. It's going to happen this week. I'm taking the Jets and a push on the over/under.
Call:
NY Jets 24
Tennessee 17
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Buffalo Bills vs. Kansas City Chiefs
Arrowhead Stadium
Kansas City, Missouri
The Bills better watch out here. They are fading fast; virtually done with regards to playoff contention. The Chiefs are at home and playing decent football of late. Chiefs win.
Call:
Buffalo 20
Kansas City 30
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Chicago Bears vs. St. Louis Rams
Edward Jones Dome
St. Louis, Missouri
The Bears have a favorable sked to finish the season; in order to bolster their NFC North title hopes. They must take care of business here and get their defense back on track. They are too predictable defensively and their offense isn't built to come back when they get behind. I believe they will be an absolutely woeful Rams team.
Call:
Chicago 31
St. Louis 13
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New England Patriots vs. Miami Dolphins
Dolphin Stadium
Miami, Florida
The Patriots are not impressing me. They may not be done yet, but they don't have the athletes to contain the Wildcat Offense. The Dolphins had them flummoxed earlier in the season and they will do it again Sunday. The Patriots can only manage so many injuries before they are unable to keep up with the Jets, Fins and the rest of the AFC Least.
Call:
New England 16
Miami 22 (Don't they always have weird scores in their games?)
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Minnesota Vikings vs. Jacksonville Jaguars
Jacksonville Stadium
Jacksonville, Florida
ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ
Peterson rushes for 174 yards... Gus Frerotte continues to suck royally.
ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ
Call:
Minnesota 13
Jacksonville 20
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Philadelphia Eagles vs. Baltimore Ravens
M&T Bank Stadium
Baltimore, Maryland
The Iggles are smarting. Not only due to injuries (which they've mostly recovered from) but also from their last two ugly games (losses to the Giants and a tie to the Bengals... good lord).
The Ravens are going to take out their anger from their loss last week on the Iggles and it won't be pretty.
Call:
Philadelphia 17
Baltimore 31
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Oakland Raiders vs. Denver Broncos
Invesco Field at Mile High Stadium
Denver, Colorado
The Raiders stink. Plain and simple. The Broncos might keep them in it, though -- with their defense; which is a sieve right now. Cutler will definitely light up the Raiders' defense and no one on the Broncos can stop the Raiders' running game. Should be fun.
Call:
Oakland 23
Denver 27
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Carolina Panthers vs. Atlanta Falcons
The Georgia Dome
Atlanta, Georgia
The Panthers are the least impressive 8-2 team I have possibly ever seen. Their quarterback sucks. It's time for them to plan on moving on to another coach. They SHOULD win this game, but if John Abraham & Co. can get to Jake Delhomme, all bets are off.
Call:
Carolina 26
Atlanta 24
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New York Football Giants vs. Arizona Cardinals
University of Phoenix Stadium
Glendale, Arizona
Listen, the Giants are great at what they do. No one player is above the team and therefore, they are better as a sum of the parts than an individual on his own. The Cards have been leaning more and more toward Pass-First the past few weeks. The contention going into this game is "Can the Giants cover Fitzgerald, Boldin AND Breaston?" (remember, this was the question going into the NFC Championship Game vs. Green Bay in January...) The real question is the battle of the lines. The Giants' defensive line vs. the Cardinals' offensive line. If the Giants are able to get to and hit Kurt Warner, he's going to throw interceptions and fumble the ball. On the flipside of that, if they can't he's going to shred the Giants. The former will happen, though.
On offense, the Giants' offensive line has solid as a rock and can run the ball against anyone. Also, Manning can make all the throws when he NEEDS to. The Cards haven't proven that they can stop the run nor the pass consistently. Given that I believe the Giants' defense will get to Warner a few times, that will be the difference in the game.
Call:
NY Giants 38
Arizona 23
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Washington Redskins vs. Seattle Seahawks
Qwest Field
Seattle, Washington
If the Seahawks weren't so banged up... because the 'skins are REELING.
Call:
Washington 23
Seattle 10
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Indianapolis Colts vs. San Diego Chargers
Qualcomm Stadium
San Diego, California
*SUNDAY NIGHT FOOTBALL*
This is a MUST win for the Chargers. A loss here likely spells the end of their playoff hopes. They do have a game left against Denver that could eliminate their tiebreaker disadvantage, but the rest of their sked does not bode well, either. Tomlinson is not healthy and Gates is not 100%. Rivers must cut down on his mistakes. Bob Sanders' status will determine how well Rivers does against the Colt defense. The Colts are actually very stout against the pass, so this might be tough.
The Colts seem to be rounding into form... finally. I don't know that the Chargers have what it takes to beat the Colts right now. (Breaks out John Madden voice) "Yeah, and and and... when you don't have what it takes to winnnnnnn... then you're probably not going to beat Peyton Manning, because Peyton Manning just has "it". And whatever "it" isssssssss... Philip Rivers and the Chargers do not have "it" right now."
Call:
Indianapolis 30
San Diego 24
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Green Bay Packers vs. New Orleans Saints
The Louisiana Superdome
New Orleans, Louisiana
*MONDAY NIGHT FOOTBALL*
The Saints are done. It's Drew Brees playing 3 on 11 against a very opportunistic defense. Sure, he gets 375 yards passing, but he's been throwing BACKBREAKING interceptions of late. Given that they cannot run the ball to save their lives nor stop it, the Saints are definitively DONE. The end.
Call:
Green Bay 31
New Orleans 20
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More this weekend.
M.D. Wright
11.20.08
I've been making out better the past three or four weeks, as I've FINALLY figured some of these teams. THEY ARE WHO I THOUGHT THEY WERE!!!
There's a game tonight, hence the "Express Edition".
Cincinnati Bengals vs. Pittsburgh Steelers
Heinz Field
Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
*THURSDAY NIGHT FOOTBALL -- NFL Network*
The line on this game is CIN (+9). It ought to be higher than that. The Bengals are missing half their starting lineup on both sides of the ball. This will be ugly.
Call:
Cincinnati 9
Pittsburgh 27
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Houston Texans vs. Cleveland Browns
Cleveland Browns Stadium
Cleveland, Ohio
I have given up on the Texans and Brady Quinn is at least doing some of the things that "D.A." couldn't/wasn't.
Call:
Houston 17
Cleveland 23
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San Francisco 49ers vs. Dallas Cowboys
Texas Stadium
Irving, Texas
This is my upset special of the week. The Cowboys may have won last week, but they are by no means dominant. Mike Singletary has the Niners playing with fire and they're looking much better of late. Especially defensively. The Cowboys should continue running the ball if they expect to keep the leg up on the rest of the teams vying for the last Wild Card spot. This will be close, and I think the Niners are going to pull off an "upset".
Call:
San Francisco 27
Dallas 23
---
Tampa Bay Buccaneers vs. Detroit Lions
Ford Field
Detroit, Michigan
LMAO.
Call:
Tampa Bay 20
Detroit -4 (To match the wind chill up there hah).
---
New York Football Jets vs. Tennessee Titans
LP Field
Nashville, Tennessee
*GAME OF THE WEEK*
The Jets are relevant again! The Titans have been begging for a loss of late. They do not evoke visions of the 1998 Denver Broncos and Minnesota Vikings, nor the 2007 Vikings in being 10-0. I keep telling people Collins is going to commit backbreaking turnovers when the Titans can least afford it. It's going to happen this week. I'm taking the Jets and a push on the over/under.
Call:
NY Jets 24
Tennessee 17
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Buffalo Bills vs. Kansas City Chiefs
Arrowhead Stadium
Kansas City, Missouri
The Bills better watch out here. They are fading fast; virtually done with regards to playoff contention. The Chiefs are at home and playing decent football of late. Chiefs win.
Call:
Buffalo 20
Kansas City 30
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Chicago Bears vs. St. Louis Rams
Edward Jones Dome
St. Louis, Missouri
The Bears have a favorable sked to finish the season; in order to bolster their NFC North title hopes. They must take care of business here and get their defense back on track. They are too predictable defensively and their offense isn't built to come back when they get behind. I believe they will be an absolutely woeful Rams team.
Call:
Chicago 31
St. Louis 13
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New England Patriots vs. Miami Dolphins
Dolphin Stadium
Miami, Florida
The Patriots are not impressing me. They may not be done yet, but they don't have the athletes to contain the Wildcat Offense. The Dolphins had them flummoxed earlier in the season and they will do it again Sunday. The Patriots can only manage so many injuries before they are unable to keep up with the Jets, Fins and the rest of the AFC Least.
Call:
New England 16
Miami 22 (Don't they always have weird scores in their games?)
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Minnesota Vikings vs. Jacksonville Jaguars
Jacksonville Stadium
Jacksonville, Florida
ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ
Peterson rushes for 174 yards... Gus Frerotte continues to suck royally.
ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ
Call:
Minnesota 13
Jacksonville 20
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Philadelphia Eagles vs. Baltimore Ravens
M&T Bank Stadium
Baltimore, Maryland
The Iggles are smarting. Not only due to injuries (which they've mostly recovered from) but also from their last two ugly games (losses to the Giants and a tie to the Bengals... good lord).
The Ravens are going to take out their anger from their loss last week on the Iggles and it won't be pretty.
Call:
Philadelphia 17
Baltimore 31
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Oakland Raiders vs. Denver Broncos
Invesco Field at Mile High Stadium
Denver, Colorado
The Raiders stink. Plain and simple. The Broncos might keep them in it, though -- with their defense; which is a sieve right now. Cutler will definitely light up the Raiders' defense and no one on the Broncos can stop the Raiders' running game. Should be fun.
Call:
Oakland 23
Denver 27
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Carolina Panthers vs. Atlanta Falcons
The Georgia Dome
Atlanta, Georgia
The Panthers are the least impressive 8-2 team I have possibly ever seen. Their quarterback sucks. It's time for them to plan on moving on to another coach. They SHOULD win this game, but if John Abraham & Co. can get to Jake Delhomme, all bets are off.
Call:
Carolina 26
Atlanta 24
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New York Football Giants vs. Arizona Cardinals
University of Phoenix Stadium
Glendale, Arizona
Listen, the Giants are great at what they do. No one player is above the team and therefore, they are better as a sum of the parts than an individual on his own. The Cards have been leaning more and more toward Pass-First the past few weeks. The contention going into this game is "Can the Giants cover Fitzgerald, Boldin AND Breaston?" (remember, this was the question going into the NFC Championship Game vs. Green Bay in January...) The real question is the battle of the lines. The Giants' defensive line vs. the Cardinals' offensive line. If the Giants are able to get to and hit Kurt Warner, he's going to throw interceptions and fumble the ball. On the flipside of that, if they can't he's going to shred the Giants. The former will happen, though.
On offense, the Giants' offensive line has solid as a rock and can run the ball against anyone. Also, Manning can make all the throws when he NEEDS to. The Cards haven't proven that they can stop the run nor the pass consistently. Given that I believe the Giants' defense will get to Warner a few times, that will be the difference in the game.
Call:
NY Giants 38
Arizona 23
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Washington Redskins vs. Seattle Seahawks
Qwest Field
Seattle, Washington
If the Seahawks weren't so banged up... because the 'skins are REELING.
Call:
Washington 23
Seattle 10
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Indianapolis Colts vs. San Diego Chargers
Qualcomm Stadium
San Diego, California
*SUNDAY NIGHT FOOTBALL*
This is a MUST win for the Chargers. A loss here likely spells the end of their playoff hopes. They do have a game left against Denver that could eliminate their tiebreaker disadvantage, but the rest of their sked does not bode well, either. Tomlinson is not healthy and Gates is not 100%. Rivers must cut down on his mistakes. Bob Sanders' status will determine how well Rivers does against the Colt defense. The Colts are actually very stout against the pass, so this might be tough.
The Colts seem to be rounding into form... finally. I don't know that the Chargers have what it takes to beat the Colts right now. (Breaks out John Madden voice) "Yeah, and and and... when you don't have what it takes to winnnnnnn... then you're probably not going to beat Peyton Manning, because Peyton Manning just has "it". And whatever "it" isssssssss... Philip Rivers and the Chargers do not have "it" right now."
Call:
Indianapolis 30
San Diego 24
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Green Bay Packers vs. New Orleans Saints
The Louisiana Superdome
New Orleans, Louisiana
*MONDAY NIGHT FOOTBALL*
The Saints are done. It's Drew Brees playing 3 on 11 against a very opportunistic defense. Sure, he gets 375 yards passing, but he's been throwing BACKBREAKING interceptions of late. Given that they cannot run the ball to save their lives nor stop it, the Saints are definitively DONE. The end.
Call:
Green Bay 31
New Orleans 20
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More this weekend.
How To Obey God
How To Obey God
So how do we obey God exactly? Well first, we obey God by obeying the gospel. You see, the first step in your decision to stop having your own way, and start doing things God's way, is to come to salvation God's way. Many teachers today will tell you that there are many different ways to God, but what they don't tell you is that what they are really saying is "You can do it your own way, you don't have to do it God's way."
This is why God hates works-based religion so much. God hates religion you say? How so? God hates religion because religion is man's attempt to get to God in his own way, by his own efforts. This is only the continuation of the self-centered way of operation. Instead, God has come to us in Jesus Christ, and God wants us to come to Jesus to have eternal life. This is God's way. It's his way because God himself did the work, not us, God himself set the example of submission and obedience, and God needs us to be willing to surrender our own will, and be willing to do it His way.
Now God's redemption is far more than what I just laid out above, but that pretty much gets to the heart of the issue. You see, God calls you a sinner not because you have made some bad decisions, and did some wrong things. God calls you a sinner because you are a little Lucifer.
"That sounds a little extreme," you may be thinking, but you see, you naturally want to have things your way, and not God's way. If that was allowed to blossom, and nothing hindered you, you would become a little tyrant who wants to rule the universe, and have everyone serve you. You don't believe me? Spend some time in a kindergarten classroom, and you will see all the tyrants, demanding their own way, and only submitting out of threats of punishment or loss of privilege.
So the problem, you see, is not really that you did some wrong things, and now you must pay the penalty or you will suffer eternal punishment. The problem is that you are a sinner. You are a potential Lucifer that must either submit to God, or have your satanic nature blossom into its fullness. It is that Lucifer in you that Christ had to die for.
So you do it God's way, or not at all, and God's way is that you believe in Jesus Christ, and receive his free gift of eternal life. Why is it free? Well because God is gracious first of all, but also because it is something that God did in Christ, and not something that you can do on your own. Your act of submission to God is exactly what God needs from you. But it certainly is not cheap, because the obedience that caused you to get saved God's way, must continue in doing God's will,
God can offer you salvation, and be right in doing so, because ultimately, the issue is going to be whether salvation is going to come from God, or from you. If it comes from God, then you are not trying to take the throne, and that means you don't want to go play Satan forever and ever. If it is from you. If it is based on your achievements, and your efforts, then it is nothing more than an expression of self-reliance, and self-exaltation...its you having your own way once again.
That's why the Apostle Paul said: "For by grace are you saved, through faith, and this is NOT OF YOURSELVES. It is the gift of God so that NONE MAY BOAST." It's all right there in the Bible. Not your way, but God's way. It is called "The obedience of faith" in Romans 1:5.
So we obey God by believing the gospel according to God's way...but then the Christian life is also an expression of this idea that we must do things God's way, and not our way. This means we must live a life of obedience as Christians.
Now I have some bad news for you Christians who think that you can live in disobedience and still be saved. You can't. "Why?" you say. Because again, the real issue is whether we desire God's way, or our own way. That's why the Bible says things like "He who is born of God does not practice sin" in 1 John 3:9. Why don't we practice sin? Because when we do, we are acting like the Devil. In fact. 1 John 3:8 says just that: "He who does what is sinful is of the devil."
The entire Christian life, in a nutshell, is learning to give up ourselves, and live out the decision to live in harmony with others by submitting to God. This is what love is all about...you put God before yourself and you put others before yourself. You think about what they want, and not just about what you want. You desire to live in harmony with them, instead of wanting to subvert, rule over, be better, or take advantage of them.
Obedience is also what the Scriptures are all about. Some people like to turn the Bible into a science textbook, and promote biblical scientific theories, or perhaps a history book, and argue for some sort of exactness in regards to historical events. Others just like to spend their time picking the Bible apart, and come up with all sorts of interesting new ideas and approaches to how the Bible was written, or when it was written, or whether what it says is really true or not. Some people just like to memorize the Bible, and then astound us with their ability to quote entire sections of Scripture.
But the Bible was written for a much more practical purpose. The Bible was written so that we might know the will of God, and DO IT. The Bible exists as the handbook on how one is to obey God, and the Bible can only be truly understood as one seeks to obey what it says, and put it into practice.
There are scores of denominations, each with their own set of beliefs about what the Bible really says. However, you will not fail to know what you need to know to follow Christ if you approach the Scriptures with the sincere desire to obey God, and do what he tells you to do.
So the choice is yours. Like C.S Lewis said, "you can say to God Thy will be done, or God will say to you thy will be done". It's as simple as that. If you put God on the throne, and come to Him in His way, you will have eternal life. But some would not have it God's way. They would rather join the chorus with Lucifer in Milton's Paradise Lost and say "Better to Reign in hell than serve in heaven." And if that's what you want, that is what you will get.
Just think, we live in a universe where everyone gets exactly what they want. That sounds like God is giving us a pretty good deal to me.
Rated:E Now that we know what obedience is, how do we practice it?by: Norksquad (E: Everyone)
© Copyright 2005 Norksquad (UN: norksquad at Writing.Com). All rights reserved.
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So how do we obey God exactly? Well first, we obey God by obeying the gospel. You see, the first step in your decision to stop having your own way, and start doing things God's way, is to come to salvation God's way. Many teachers today will tell you that there are many different ways to God, but what they don't tell you is that what they are really saying is "You can do it your own way, you don't have to do it God's way."
This is why God hates works-based religion so much. God hates religion you say? How so? God hates religion because religion is man's attempt to get to God in his own way, by his own efforts. This is only the continuation of the self-centered way of operation. Instead, God has come to us in Jesus Christ, and God wants us to come to Jesus to have eternal life. This is God's way. It's his way because God himself did the work, not us, God himself set the example of submission and obedience, and God needs us to be willing to surrender our own will, and be willing to do it His way.
Now God's redemption is far more than what I just laid out above, but that pretty much gets to the heart of the issue. You see, God calls you a sinner not because you have made some bad decisions, and did some wrong things. God calls you a sinner because you are a little Lucifer.
"That sounds a little extreme," you may be thinking, but you see, you naturally want to have things your way, and not God's way. If that was allowed to blossom, and nothing hindered you, you would become a little tyrant who wants to rule the universe, and have everyone serve you. You don't believe me? Spend some time in a kindergarten classroom, and you will see all the tyrants, demanding their own way, and only submitting out of threats of punishment or loss of privilege.
So the problem, you see, is not really that you did some wrong things, and now you must pay the penalty or you will suffer eternal punishment. The problem is that you are a sinner. You are a potential Lucifer that must either submit to God, or have your satanic nature blossom into its fullness. It is that Lucifer in you that Christ had to die for.
So you do it God's way, or not at all, and God's way is that you believe in Jesus Christ, and receive his free gift of eternal life. Why is it free? Well because God is gracious first of all, but also because it is something that God did in Christ, and not something that you can do on your own. Your act of submission to God is exactly what God needs from you. But it certainly is not cheap, because the obedience that caused you to get saved God's way, must continue in doing God's will,
God can offer you salvation, and be right in doing so, because ultimately, the issue is going to be whether salvation is going to come from God, or from you. If it comes from God, then you are not trying to take the throne, and that means you don't want to go play Satan forever and ever. If it is from you. If it is based on your achievements, and your efforts, then it is nothing more than an expression of self-reliance, and self-exaltation...its you having your own way once again.
That's why the Apostle Paul said: "For by grace are you saved, through faith, and this is NOT OF YOURSELVES. It is the gift of God so that NONE MAY BOAST." It's all right there in the Bible. Not your way, but God's way. It is called "The obedience of faith" in Romans 1:5.
So we obey God by believing the gospel according to God's way...but then the Christian life is also an expression of this idea that we must do things God's way, and not our way. This means we must live a life of obedience as Christians.
Now I have some bad news for you Christians who think that you can live in disobedience and still be saved. You can't. "Why?" you say. Because again, the real issue is whether we desire God's way, or our own way. That's why the Bible says things like "He who is born of God does not practice sin" in 1 John 3:9. Why don't we practice sin? Because when we do, we are acting like the Devil. In fact. 1 John 3:8 says just that: "He who does what is sinful is of the devil."
The entire Christian life, in a nutshell, is learning to give up ourselves, and live out the decision to live in harmony with others by submitting to God. This is what love is all about...you put God before yourself and you put others before yourself. You think about what they want, and not just about what you want. You desire to live in harmony with them, instead of wanting to subvert, rule over, be better, or take advantage of them.
Obedience is also what the Scriptures are all about. Some people like to turn the Bible into a science textbook, and promote biblical scientific theories, or perhaps a history book, and argue for some sort of exactness in regards to historical events. Others just like to spend their time picking the Bible apart, and come up with all sorts of interesting new ideas and approaches to how the Bible was written, or when it was written, or whether what it says is really true or not. Some people just like to memorize the Bible, and then astound us with their ability to quote entire sections of Scripture.
But the Bible was written for a much more practical purpose. The Bible was written so that we might know the will of God, and DO IT. The Bible exists as the handbook on how one is to obey God, and the Bible can only be truly understood as one seeks to obey what it says, and put it into practice.
There are scores of denominations, each with their own set of beliefs about what the Bible really says. However, you will not fail to know what you need to know to follow Christ if you approach the Scriptures with the sincere desire to obey God, and do what he tells you to do.
So the choice is yours. Like C.S Lewis said, "you can say to God Thy will be done, or God will say to you thy will be done". It's as simple as that. If you put God on the throne, and come to Him in His way, you will have eternal life. But some would not have it God's way. They would rather join the chorus with Lucifer in Milton's Paradise Lost and say "Better to Reign in hell than serve in heaven." And if that's what you want, that is what you will get.
Just think, we live in a universe where everyone gets exactly what they want. That sounds like God is giving us a pretty good deal to me.
Rated:E Now that we know what obedience is, how do we practice it?by: Norksquad (E: Everyone)
© Copyright 2005 Norksquad (UN: norksquad at Writing.Com). All rights reserved.
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Tuesday, November 18, 2008
7 Relationship Mistakes That Men Make
7 Relationship Mistakes That Men Make
By The Fly Guy ⋅ June 6, 2008
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“I was so close.”
That’s what you kept telling yourself as you attempted to once again pick up the pieces following another failed relationship. But can you really be blamed for having those thoughts? After all, it wasn’t that long ago when you were so sure you had finally found “the one.”
Sadly, it wasn’t meant to be; and now you’re sitting at home, watching “Laverne & Shirley” reruns on Nick at Nite, wondering where it all went wrong.
“It was all her fault,” you tried to tell yourself. But deep down, you knew the truth. You blew it again.
But look on the bright side. If you could somehow manage to avoid the 7 Relationship Mistakes That Men Make; then maybe things will have a much better outcome the next time around.
1. You start slacking off.
When you first started dating, she would brag nonstop to her friends about how romantic, caring, and thoughtful you were. But now when her friends ask about the relationship, she simply rolls her eyes, and says, “I don’t want to talk about it.”
Let’s face it; you used to be the cream of the crop and a proud member of the “good boyfriend club.” But not anymore, as you’ve become about as lazy as Kimora Lee Simmons’ personal trainer. (I mean seriously …she deserves a refund.)
2. You get too serious, too fast.
Whoa …Whoa…Whoa. I know you’re excited about your new relationship, but you can’t start having “marriage, kids, and soul mate” talk — on DAY 2!!! Moving too fast often leads to getting tossed aside faster than an empty Lindsay Lohan shot glass.
3. You live in the past.
The two of you have settled into a pretty nice relationship. There’s just one problem though: you keep bringing up the past, using it as ammunition to fire off reasons why the relationship won’t work.
“My last girlfriend cheated on me.”
“Things always seem good in the beginning, only to change down the road.”
“You’ve broken hearts in the past. How do I really know that you’ve changed?”
And on and on it goes. In fact, I haven’t heard this much whining since my aunt bought Keith Sweat’s “Greatest Hits” album.
4. You don’t show her enough attention.
Here’s a bit of advice: stop trying to play things so cool. A huge mistake would be for you to casually overlook the fact that your woman needs to be shown some attention. Look at it this way; if you fail to make her feel special, then she will have no choice but to fill that void elsewhere — which will probably hurt your feelings when she leaves you for her “best friend” — or even worse, some Hollywood heartthrob like Will Smith, Brad Pitt … or Morgan Freeman (Hell, I don’t know who women find sexy these days.)
5. You smother her.
On the flipside, some guys can show too much attention by trying to spend EVERY SINGLE MINUTE with their woman. And even when they aren’t with her, they call nonstop, and send at least one email a day professing how wonderful and perfect she is. While she may initially be flattered, no one wants to be suffocated by love. Being smothered in a relationship can be about as draining as trying to silence your outspoken ex-President husband. (Is that still a touchy subject?)
6. You let her take the lead.
While no woman wants to be told what to do, she also doesn’t want a man with no backbone (I can think of a few prominent examples to insert here, but I’ll respectfully decline.) Step up and be a man that’s confident in who you are and what you want out of life. If you don’t, and allow her to totally run the show, then she will never respect you, and ultimately move on to a man that she can respect.
7. You start going nowhere fast.
While your woman doesn’t want you to move too fast, she also doesn’t want the relationship to remain in neutral. If she looks up after a year, and feels like no forward progress is being made, then she’s not going to be happy. Not making any effort towards the development of something meaningful is an even bigger mistake than the time I let Wesley Snipes refer me to his tax accountant.
The Fly Conclusion: Now that I’ve shared with you the common relationship mistakes made by men, a choice must be made. Will you continue to fumble the ball at the goal line, ultimately blowing a shot at true relational happiness? Or will keep your eyes open, thereby avoiding those pitfalls? The choice is yours.
And now it’s time for me to hear from the men. Have you ever been guilty of these relationship mistakes? If so, did you eventually learn your lesson?
What about the women? Have you ever been forced to kick a guy to the curb for being in violation of any of these mistakes? The floor is officially yours.
By The Fly Guy ⋅ June 6, 2008
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“I was so close.”
That’s what you kept telling yourself as you attempted to once again pick up the pieces following another failed relationship. But can you really be blamed for having those thoughts? After all, it wasn’t that long ago when you were so sure you had finally found “the one.”
Sadly, it wasn’t meant to be; and now you’re sitting at home, watching “Laverne & Shirley” reruns on Nick at Nite, wondering where it all went wrong.
“It was all her fault,” you tried to tell yourself. But deep down, you knew the truth. You blew it again.
But look on the bright side. If you could somehow manage to avoid the 7 Relationship Mistakes That Men Make; then maybe things will have a much better outcome the next time around.
1. You start slacking off.
When you first started dating, she would brag nonstop to her friends about how romantic, caring, and thoughtful you were. But now when her friends ask about the relationship, she simply rolls her eyes, and says, “I don’t want to talk about it.”
Let’s face it; you used to be the cream of the crop and a proud member of the “good boyfriend club.” But not anymore, as you’ve become about as lazy as Kimora Lee Simmons’ personal trainer. (I mean seriously …she deserves a refund.)
2. You get too serious, too fast.
Whoa …Whoa…Whoa. I know you’re excited about your new relationship, but you can’t start having “marriage, kids, and soul mate” talk — on DAY 2!!! Moving too fast often leads to getting tossed aside faster than an empty Lindsay Lohan shot glass.
3. You live in the past.
The two of you have settled into a pretty nice relationship. There’s just one problem though: you keep bringing up the past, using it as ammunition to fire off reasons why the relationship won’t work.
“My last girlfriend cheated on me.”
“Things always seem good in the beginning, only to change down the road.”
“You’ve broken hearts in the past. How do I really know that you’ve changed?”
And on and on it goes. In fact, I haven’t heard this much whining since my aunt bought Keith Sweat’s “Greatest Hits” album.
4. You don’t show her enough attention.
Here’s a bit of advice: stop trying to play things so cool. A huge mistake would be for you to casually overlook the fact that your woman needs to be shown some attention. Look at it this way; if you fail to make her feel special, then she will have no choice but to fill that void elsewhere — which will probably hurt your feelings when she leaves you for her “best friend” — or even worse, some Hollywood heartthrob like Will Smith, Brad Pitt … or Morgan Freeman (Hell, I don’t know who women find sexy these days.)
5. You smother her.
On the flipside, some guys can show too much attention by trying to spend EVERY SINGLE MINUTE with their woman. And even when they aren’t with her, they call nonstop, and send at least one email a day professing how wonderful and perfect she is. While she may initially be flattered, no one wants to be suffocated by love. Being smothered in a relationship can be about as draining as trying to silence your outspoken ex-President husband. (Is that still a touchy subject?)
6. You let her take the lead.
While no woman wants to be told what to do, she also doesn’t want a man with no backbone (I can think of a few prominent examples to insert here, but I’ll respectfully decline.) Step up and be a man that’s confident in who you are and what you want out of life. If you don’t, and allow her to totally run the show, then she will never respect you, and ultimately move on to a man that she can respect.
7. You start going nowhere fast.
While your woman doesn’t want you to move too fast, she also doesn’t want the relationship to remain in neutral. If she looks up after a year, and feels like no forward progress is being made, then she’s not going to be happy. Not making any effort towards the development of something meaningful is an even bigger mistake than the time I let Wesley Snipes refer me to his tax accountant.
The Fly Conclusion: Now that I’ve shared with you the common relationship mistakes made by men, a choice must be made. Will you continue to fumble the ball at the goal line, ultimately blowing a shot at true relational happiness? Or will keep your eyes open, thereby avoiding those pitfalls? The choice is yours.
And now it’s time for me to hear from the men. Have you ever been guilty of these relationship mistakes? If so, did you eventually learn your lesson?
What about the women? Have you ever been forced to kick a guy to the curb for being in violation of any of these mistakes? The floor is officially yours.
Preparing To Marry Judas?
Preparing To Marry Judas?
Meg Wilson
Crosswalk.com Contributor
Tracy, an attractive brunette, sat in Sue’s living room pouring out her disappointment in round salty drops. Sue was her friend from college, and they had shared many joys and tears over the years.
“I thought I did it right,” Tracy sobbed. “I dated only Christian guys with marriage potential. Once I found Mr. Right, we waited for the wedding before becoming involved physically. He seemed like such a godly man.”
Then came her bombshell.
“We didn’t even make it to our second anniversary before he cheated on me. Then I found out he was looking at pornography on the internet and has been since he was a teen. I feel like I married a traitor. How many nights has he come home to me after being with her, or looking at countless images, only to give me a Judas kiss? My folks told me we were going too fast. Even you tried to tell me.”
Sue worked with the college girls at her church, and as she listened to Tracy’s story, her mind raced to recent conversations with a girl in her group. Brittany talked about her “Mr. Right” and nothing else.
“He is such a good Christian,” Brittany often said. “I just love to watch him play the guitar with the church worship team. I can SO see myself with this guy.”
At the next youth meeting, with Tracy’s story fresh in Sue’s mind, she decided to ask Brittany some basic questions. Their conversation went something like this.
“How long have you known Jeff?” Sue asked.
“Two wonderful months.”
“What makes him a good Christian?”
“He loves to worship the Lord and he likes going to church.”
“What is one fault that you’ve found?”
Brittany looked confused, “Oh, I can’t think of anything. He is everything I prayed for in a guy.”
Sue paused, “What about his family, how do you get along with them?”
“Oh, we hardly see them. We just love being together. Why so many questions, Sue?”
Sue gathered her thoughts before she spoke.“Brittany, it’s great that you’ve found someone special, but now’s the time to really get to know Jeff and his family. If you did get married, it would be a package deal. You would not only get Jeff, but also a mother and father-in-law. Not to mention his siblings and other family members.”
“I never thought about it like that,” Brittany said.
Sue asked, “What will you do when the first real test comes?"
“What kind of test?”
“Brittany, you both will let the other down at some point. Every one of Jesus’ disciples who loved him betrayed Him after his crucifixion.”
Brittany stared at Sue with a puzzled expression. Then she said, “I haven’t really given this relationship enough thought. It’s all been about my feelings and dreams. Thanks for being real. I’m going to have to open my eyes and ask some hard questions.”
Sue decided to see how the other girls felt about finding their future husbands. How many other young women, like Brittany, approached dating with only idealistic notions about marriage? Their search for “Mr. Right” had turned into a search for “Mr. Feel Right.” These dreamy ideas come from movies, romance novels, even fairy-tales — all based in fantasy! Christian women often add the ideal of Jesus on top of these romantic notions, forgetting He was the only perfect Man. And He won’t be found at the altar in a rented tux.
Many young women also envision their future husband, their prince, as a new and improved version of their dad — assuming they had a healthy relationship. If the relationship was poor or damaged, then they choose a “prince” that they think is a polar opposite of Dad.
With these common approaches to finding “Mr. Right” in mind, Sue broached another important subject with the group. She decided to start with a question. “How did you choose where to go to college?”
Emily, one of the quietest girls, spoke first. “My parents have been saving for me to go to college since I was born. It was never ‘if’ I would go, only ‘when.’ I researched different colleges for months with good nursing programs. Then my folks and I visited a couple of my top choices to get a feel for the campus.”
The rest of the girls spelled out similar plans. They all seemed to have taken the time to research colleges and majors carefully. Most of the girls even visited more than one college. They didn’t want to make a mistake. This conversation stood in stark contrast to the ideas expressed about how to find “Mr. Right.”
Sue decided to put together some topics to discuss with the girls over the next few weeks. After researching some of the issues godly men struggle with, she had clear direction for their discussions. The statistics on young men who view pornography were off the charts. It is clear that drug use and oral sex among teens have skyrocketed. Alcoholism, gambling ... the list of potential traps is a lengthy one. She wondered if young women knew how to set boundaries, appreciate their worth, watch for red flags, and ask difficult questions before they walk down the aisle wearing white.
Sue sought to raise her group’s awareness without creating fear. She reminded them to let God direct every aspect of their life’s journey, keeping in mind, “There’s not one totally good person on earth, not one who is truly pure and sinless” (Ecclesiastes 7:20). Allowing Christ to be their Matchmaker makes the most sense. He will choose the best. Even seemingly strong marriages face trials because we are broken people living in a broken world — a world full of betrayers.
So the question is not, “How can I avoid marrying a Judas?” The question is, “How can one broken person marry another broken person and stay together in spite of their sinfulness?”
The goal is to be transformed from being like a Judas to a Peter — restored by the hand of Christ. Peter betrayed Jesus just as Judas did, but his repentant heart sought change. He never forgot where he came from. Only when both husband and wife are honest with themselves and with each other can they grow stronger. Their life long goal should be to reflect Christ more each day. Only when God is central can a marriage survive the bumps in the road. “A three-stranded rope isn't easily snapped” (Ecclesiastes 4:12d).
Later, Sue called her friend, Tracy, to see how she was doing. Tracy’s voice sounded stronger as she spoke. “I am happy to report that my husband and I are in counseling. He seems genuinely sorry and willing to work on his issues. I’m not kidding myself, though, about our future. I have decided to take each day as it unfolds trusting the Lord to guide me.”
“You can’t go wrong waiting for God’s voice.” Sue added.
Tracy responded, “I had to be willing to do my part to heal. Christ has been showing me the ways I’ve enabled my husband to be unhealthy by not recognizing the red flags and setting boundaries. My counselor helped me to see that I wanted the dream so much that I ignored the truth in front of me -- it’s humbling. I’m not as quick to throw stones at my husband.”
As she hung up, Sue thought she heard a new confidence in Tracy’s voice. She was amazed again at how the Lord works. Next week's conversation with the girls was going to be, “the dream vs. reality.”
Tools You Can Use:
Once in a serious relationship that feels like “the one,” then:
1. Take the time for a serious second look.
2. Seek Godly counsel and listen to those who are trustworthy.
3. Ask some difficult questions (see below).
Asking Unromantic Questions
Ask one or two questions over several weeks so it doesn’t feel like the third degree. Pray and let God guide the conversation. I guarantee you will know more about each other when you are through. Be willing to be vulnerable as you share your side of the same question. This list isn’t complete, but it’s a good place to start.
When dating:
What’s most important to you in a relationship?
What quality found in your mom and or dad do you want to emulate?
What is the one thing in your past you most regret?
Describe your idea of the perfect spouse.
What does romance mean to you? Do you consider yourself romantic?
What are your physical boundaries before marriage?
When engaged:
What one thing do you want to be different in your marriage than in your parents?
If there were a conflict in our marriage we couldn’t work out, would you be willing to seek godly counseling?
What do you think about a man hitting a woman? Is it ever okay?
Do you want kids? If so, describe your idea of a good parent.
How do you handle your money? Are you a spender or saver?
How do you feel about lottery tickets, social drinking, smoking pot, etc?
What are your views on sex before to marriage?
Have you ever looked at pornography of any kind?
Do you think it’s okay to have a stripper at a bachelor party?
What, if any, are your past sexual experiences?
When were you the angriest? What did you do or how did you respond?
If you haven’t talked about these issues — do. Please don’t assume you already know the answer. The reality is there will be at least one answer you don’t like. This is a sign there is work to do -- not necessarily that you should call things off. The best situation is a couple living firmly in reality, willing to work on their issues.
*All names (other than the author’s) have been changed.
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Crosswalk.com welcome's Meg Wilson as the newest contributor to our Marriage channel.
Meg is a regular speaker to women’s groups, Bible studies, and conferences. Five years ago she founded the Healing Hearts Ministry to offer help and hope to women whose husbands are caught in the web of sexual addiction. Her book Hope After Betrayel: Healing When Sexual Addiction Invades Your Marriage (Kregel Publishers) was released last year. You can visit her website at www.hopeafterbetrayal.com.
Meg Wilson
Crosswalk.com Contributor
Tracy, an attractive brunette, sat in Sue’s living room pouring out her disappointment in round salty drops. Sue was her friend from college, and they had shared many joys and tears over the years.
“I thought I did it right,” Tracy sobbed. “I dated only Christian guys with marriage potential. Once I found Mr. Right, we waited for the wedding before becoming involved physically. He seemed like such a godly man.”
Then came her bombshell.
“We didn’t even make it to our second anniversary before he cheated on me. Then I found out he was looking at pornography on the internet and has been since he was a teen. I feel like I married a traitor. How many nights has he come home to me after being with her, or looking at countless images, only to give me a Judas kiss? My folks told me we were going too fast. Even you tried to tell me.”
Sue worked with the college girls at her church, and as she listened to Tracy’s story, her mind raced to recent conversations with a girl in her group. Brittany talked about her “Mr. Right” and nothing else.
“He is such a good Christian,” Brittany often said. “I just love to watch him play the guitar with the church worship team. I can SO see myself with this guy.”
At the next youth meeting, with Tracy’s story fresh in Sue’s mind, she decided to ask Brittany some basic questions. Their conversation went something like this.
“How long have you known Jeff?” Sue asked.
“Two wonderful months.”
“What makes him a good Christian?”
“He loves to worship the Lord and he likes going to church.”
“What is one fault that you’ve found?”
Brittany looked confused, “Oh, I can’t think of anything. He is everything I prayed for in a guy.”
Sue paused, “What about his family, how do you get along with them?”
“Oh, we hardly see them. We just love being together. Why so many questions, Sue?”
Sue gathered her thoughts before she spoke.“Brittany, it’s great that you’ve found someone special, but now’s the time to really get to know Jeff and his family. If you did get married, it would be a package deal. You would not only get Jeff, but also a mother and father-in-law. Not to mention his siblings and other family members.”
“I never thought about it like that,” Brittany said.
Sue asked, “What will you do when the first real test comes?"
“What kind of test?”
“Brittany, you both will let the other down at some point. Every one of Jesus’ disciples who loved him betrayed Him after his crucifixion.”
Brittany stared at Sue with a puzzled expression. Then she said, “I haven’t really given this relationship enough thought. It’s all been about my feelings and dreams. Thanks for being real. I’m going to have to open my eyes and ask some hard questions.”
Sue decided to see how the other girls felt about finding their future husbands. How many other young women, like Brittany, approached dating with only idealistic notions about marriage? Their search for “Mr. Right” had turned into a search for “Mr. Feel Right.” These dreamy ideas come from movies, romance novels, even fairy-tales — all based in fantasy! Christian women often add the ideal of Jesus on top of these romantic notions, forgetting He was the only perfect Man. And He won’t be found at the altar in a rented tux.
Many young women also envision their future husband, their prince, as a new and improved version of their dad — assuming they had a healthy relationship. If the relationship was poor or damaged, then they choose a “prince” that they think is a polar opposite of Dad.
With these common approaches to finding “Mr. Right” in mind, Sue broached another important subject with the group. She decided to start with a question. “How did you choose where to go to college?”
Emily, one of the quietest girls, spoke first. “My parents have been saving for me to go to college since I was born. It was never ‘if’ I would go, only ‘when.’ I researched different colleges for months with good nursing programs. Then my folks and I visited a couple of my top choices to get a feel for the campus.”
The rest of the girls spelled out similar plans. They all seemed to have taken the time to research colleges and majors carefully. Most of the girls even visited more than one college. They didn’t want to make a mistake. This conversation stood in stark contrast to the ideas expressed about how to find “Mr. Right.”
Sue decided to put together some topics to discuss with the girls over the next few weeks. After researching some of the issues godly men struggle with, she had clear direction for their discussions. The statistics on young men who view pornography were off the charts. It is clear that drug use and oral sex among teens have skyrocketed. Alcoholism, gambling ... the list of potential traps is a lengthy one. She wondered if young women knew how to set boundaries, appreciate their worth, watch for red flags, and ask difficult questions before they walk down the aisle wearing white.
Sue sought to raise her group’s awareness without creating fear. She reminded them to let God direct every aspect of their life’s journey, keeping in mind, “There’s not one totally good person on earth, not one who is truly pure and sinless” (Ecclesiastes 7:20). Allowing Christ to be their Matchmaker makes the most sense. He will choose the best. Even seemingly strong marriages face trials because we are broken people living in a broken world — a world full of betrayers.
So the question is not, “How can I avoid marrying a Judas?” The question is, “How can one broken person marry another broken person and stay together in spite of their sinfulness?”
The goal is to be transformed from being like a Judas to a Peter — restored by the hand of Christ. Peter betrayed Jesus just as Judas did, but his repentant heart sought change. He never forgot where he came from. Only when both husband and wife are honest with themselves and with each other can they grow stronger. Their life long goal should be to reflect Christ more each day. Only when God is central can a marriage survive the bumps in the road. “A three-stranded rope isn't easily snapped” (Ecclesiastes 4:12d).
Later, Sue called her friend, Tracy, to see how she was doing. Tracy’s voice sounded stronger as she spoke. “I am happy to report that my husband and I are in counseling. He seems genuinely sorry and willing to work on his issues. I’m not kidding myself, though, about our future. I have decided to take each day as it unfolds trusting the Lord to guide me.”
“You can’t go wrong waiting for God’s voice.” Sue added.
Tracy responded, “I had to be willing to do my part to heal. Christ has been showing me the ways I’ve enabled my husband to be unhealthy by not recognizing the red flags and setting boundaries. My counselor helped me to see that I wanted the dream so much that I ignored the truth in front of me -- it’s humbling. I’m not as quick to throw stones at my husband.”
As she hung up, Sue thought she heard a new confidence in Tracy’s voice. She was amazed again at how the Lord works. Next week's conversation with the girls was going to be, “the dream vs. reality.”
Tools You Can Use:
Once in a serious relationship that feels like “the one,” then:
1. Take the time for a serious second look.
2. Seek Godly counsel and listen to those who are trustworthy.
3. Ask some difficult questions (see below).
Asking Unromantic Questions
Ask one or two questions over several weeks so it doesn’t feel like the third degree. Pray and let God guide the conversation. I guarantee you will know more about each other when you are through. Be willing to be vulnerable as you share your side of the same question. This list isn’t complete, but it’s a good place to start.
When dating:
What’s most important to you in a relationship?
What quality found in your mom and or dad do you want to emulate?
What is the one thing in your past you most regret?
Describe your idea of the perfect spouse.
What does romance mean to you? Do you consider yourself romantic?
What are your physical boundaries before marriage?
When engaged:
What one thing do you want to be different in your marriage than in your parents?
If there were a conflict in our marriage we couldn’t work out, would you be willing to seek godly counseling?
What do you think about a man hitting a woman? Is it ever okay?
Do you want kids? If so, describe your idea of a good parent.
How do you handle your money? Are you a spender or saver?
How do you feel about lottery tickets, social drinking, smoking pot, etc?
What are your views on sex before to marriage?
Have you ever looked at pornography of any kind?
Do you think it’s okay to have a stripper at a bachelor party?
What, if any, are your past sexual experiences?
When were you the angriest? What did you do or how did you respond?
If you haven’t talked about these issues — do. Please don’t assume you already know the answer. The reality is there will be at least one answer you don’t like. This is a sign there is work to do -- not necessarily that you should call things off. The best situation is a couple living firmly in reality, willing to work on their issues.
*All names (other than the author’s) have been changed.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Crosswalk.com welcome's Meg Wilson as the newest contributor to our Marriage channel.
Meg is a regular speaker to women’s groups, Bible studies, and conferences. Five years ago she founded the Healing Hearts Ministry to offer help and hope to women whose husbands are caught in the web of sexual addiction. Her book Hope After Betrayel: Healing When Sexual Addiction Invades Your Marriage (Kregel Publishers) was released last year. You can visit her website at www.hopeafterbetrayal.com.
Seven Myths Single Women Believe
Seven Myths Single Women Believe
By Suzanne Hadley
Sarah wrestled with God. For five years she had served as a resident director at a small Bible college. Each day, young women would knock on the door of Sarah's small dorm apartment. The petite, soft-spoken brunette would fix them tea and listen as they poured out their hearts.
"If I could just get my life on track," a 19-year-old would moan. "Then God would bring a godly man into my life."
Sarah spoke encouraging words, but inside she felt annoyed. I'm in my late 20s and unmarried. What issue do you think I need to work on?
As Sarah wrestled with this contradiction, she discovered something: She and the women around her were succumbing to lies about their singleness. Some of these myths had been instilled in them as little girls growing up in Christian homes (e.g., if you follow God and keep yourself pure, someday He will bring you "the one"). Others seemed founded in a simplistic rewards system (e.g., when you've learned to fully trust in the Lord, then He will bless you with a spouse). Still others seemed to grow out of unrealistic expectations (e.g., when you are married, you will no longer be lonely).
Sarah noticed the enemy was using these myths to discourage women and leave them feeling spiritually defeated. The lies reinforced ungodly perspectives of their relationship with Christ ("I'm not deserving of a husband" or "God views me as a useful tool") and taught them to believe things about marriage that simply were not true ("Marriage equals spiritual maturity").
Here are seven of the most deadly myths:
God will give me a husband when I'm ready. I recently spoke with a friend in her 30s who casually said the reason she was not yet married was because evidently the Lord had decided she was not "ready." Whether they say it or not, many single women believe that procuring a spouse is somehow performance based. If I were just godly enough, the Lord would give me a husband.
Not true! There is a danger in equating marriage with spiritual maturity. God teaches us to depend on Him as singles, but these lessons are not reserved for the mate-less. All of us are sinners, which means we are all constantly striving to crucify the flesh and be more like Christ.
Being in a single state may or may not have anything to do with your readiness. It likely has more to do with God's timing. If you are daily allowing the Lord to mold you into His image, you are probably ready to be in a Christ-centered relationship. Realizing this may allow you to be more alert to the godly men around you.
God views me more as a useful tool than a beloved child. As a gifted resident assistant, Sarah sometimes felt like Psalm 37:4 didn't apply to her: "Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart." Instead of believing that God cared about her dreams, Sarah suspected He was withholding these things because she was more useful to Him in a single state.
People have often told me, "God has allowed you to be single so you might do these things for Him!" While I know these people are seeking to encourage me, my gut reaction is, Why me? It's true that God may set us apart for a season of singleness, but that doesn't mean He is indifferent to our dreams.
Matthew 7:11 says, "If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!" God views you a cherished child — never a utilitarian object. A loving Father will give you good gifts at just the right time.
When it's the right guy, I'll just know. When I was in eighth grade I drew "the one" on a sheet of notebook paper. He had the post-mullet Steven Curtis Chapman haircut, wore hiking books and sported several oddly-placed muscles. Among his more critical characteristics were intelligence, godliness and good hygiene. I had specific ideas about who my husband would be, even what he would look like. (If I met the guy in my picture today, I'd run the other way.)
Christian culture (and eHarmony) has created a romanticized picture of what meeting your spouse will be like. In the classic I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Joshua Harris writes: "Too many couples overspiritualize the decision of whom they marry. Instead of realizing that God leads us by providing wisdom and allowing us to make our own choices, those couples wait for a 'mystical experience' that will tell them what to do."
Just as my junior high mind projected who I would recognize as "the one," my grown-up self entertains expectations of how I'll feel when my "soul mate" arrives on the scene. The truth is, God knows best the kind of man who will inspire me to greater devotion to Him. As I seek the Lord, I can trust Him to reveal that person to me in whatever way He sees fit.
When I get married, then my life will begin. This myth is particularly insidious. It has the potential to cause great frustration and hopelessness. A desire to be a wife and mother is good, but it does not let us off the hook from living fully right now.
Of the more than 500 references to life in the Bible, none puts marriage as a prerequisite. Jesus said: "I tell you the truth, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life and will not be condemned; he has crossed over from death to life" (John 5:24). My life started when I believed on Jesus, and it does not hinge on my marital status.
Think about the acclaimed Proverbs 31 woman. She must have developed many of her skills long before she was married. In the quiet moments of her life as a young woman, she was learning how to be productive and godly. In today's culture, marriage is often delayed longer than we had hoped. But the distinctive opportunities we have as singles are worth embracing.
Marriage will/will not meet my deepest needs. There seem to be two prevalent and opposing views on the relationship between marriage and needs. The first sees marriage as the ultimate wish-fulfillment experience. The other says every need can and should be directly met through Christ, a type of "super-husband."
Each view contains some truth. God created woman for man as a remedy for loneliness (Genesis 2:18). And God's grace is sufficient for every circumstance (2 Corinthians 12:9). But marriage alone cannot satisfy a woman's deepest needs. Sarah says: "A very wise lady once told me that she has had her loneliest times since she has been married." Neither can our relationship with Jesus meet the needs that He intended other humans to satisfy.
Reliance on Christ does not nullify the advantage of a human marriage relationship. And yet, He is the One who satisfies our deepest longings. As women, we must embrace a balanced understanding of the distinctive roles that Christ and a godly husband should play in our lives.
There must be something wrong with me. If I could just figure out what it is, I could fix it and guys would start showing interest. For a long time I believed that if I were thinner, I would attract a husband. Magazines with images of women with flawless skin and model-thin bodies fuel that inner voice that says, You're not thin enough. You're not pretty enough. Or worse, I wonder if it's my personality. I talk too much. Or I laugh at the wrong times. Or I'm too assertive. It's easy to look at married women and wonder: Why them and not me?
The truth is, most of the things I suspect are lacking in me, fall under the category of charm and beauty. Scripture says, "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised" (Proverbs 31:30). The things I should be concerned about improving are spiritual in nature. Am I submitting to Christ? Am I manifesting the fruit of the Spirit? Do I have a gentle and quiet spirit? The right kind of man will be attracted to these qualities.
The older I get, the less likely it is that I will find someone. "God is not bound by odds!" Sarah says. While Sarah was still working at the college, she attracted the attention of a godly man. He sought her out, even learning of her character by questioning her friends. Mark and Sarah married when she was 29. Today the couple serves together in Lithuania.
As you pass the average marrying age, it can be tempting to panic. It's helpful to remember Paul's words in Romans 11:36: "For from him and through him and to him are all things." All things. As you cultivate godly attitudes and avoid damaging lies, you allow the Lord to pour out the things He has for you. That way, when the right guy comes along, you'll be ready.
By Suzanne Hadley
Sarah wrestled with God. For five years she had served as a resident director at a small Bible college. Each day, young women would knock on the door of Sarah's small dorm apartment. The petite, soft-spoken brunette would fix them tea and listen as they poured out their hearts.
"If I could just get my life on track," a 19-year-old would moan. "Then God would bring a godly man into my life."
Sarah spoke encouraging words, but inside she felt annoyed. I'm in my late 20s and unmarried. What issue do you think I need to work on?
As Sarah wrestled with this contradiction, she discovered something: She and the women around her were succumbing to lies about their singleness. Some of these myths had been instilled in them as little girls growing up in Christian homes (e.g., if you follow God and keep yourself pure, someday He will bring you "the one"). Others seemed founded in a simplistic rewards system (e.g., when you've learned to fully trust in the Lord, then He will bless you with a spouse). Still others seemed to grow out of unrealistic expectations (e.g., when you are married, you will no longer be lonely).
Sarah noticed the enemy was using these myths to discourage women and leave them feeling spiritually defeated. The lies reinforced ungodly perspectives of their relationship with Christ ("I'm not deserving of a husband" or "God views me as a useful tool") and taught them to believe things about marriage that simply were not true ("Marriage equals spiritual maturity").
Here are seven of the most deadly myths:
God will give me a husband when I'm ready. I recently spoke with a friend in her 30s who casually said the reason she was not yet married was because evidently the Lord had decided she was not "ready." Whether they say it or not, many single women believe that procuring a spouse is somehow performance based. If I were just godly enough, the Lord would give me a husband.
Not true! There is a danger in equating marriage with spiritual maturity. God teaches us to depend on Him as singles, but these lessons are not reserved for the mate-less. All of us are sinners, which means we are all constantly striving to crucify the flesh and be more like Christ.
Being in a single state may or may not have anything to do with your readiness. It likely has more to do with God's timing. If you are daily allowing the Lord to mold you into His image, you are probably ready to be in a Christ-centered relationship. Realizing this may allow you to be more alert to the godly men around you.
God views me more as a useful tool than a beloved child. As a gifted resident assistant, Sarah sometimes felt like Psalm 37:4 didn't apply to her: "Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart." Instead of believing that God cared about her dreams, Sarah suspected He was withholding these things because she was more useful to Him in a single state.
People have often told me, "God has allowed you to be single so you might do these things for Him!" While I know these people are seeking to encourage me, my gut reaction is, Why me? It's true that God may set us apart for a season of singleness, but that doesn't mean He is indifferent to our dreams.
Matthew 7:11 says, "If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!" God views you a cherished child — never a utilitarian object. A loving Father will give you good gifts at just the right time.
When it's the right guy, I'll just know. When I was in eighth grade I drew "the one" on a sheet of notebook paper. He had the post-mullet Steven Curtis Chapman haircut, wore hiking books and sported several oddly-placed muscles. Among his more critical characteristics were intelligence, godliness and good hygiene. I had specific ideas about who my husband would be, even what he would look like. (If I met the guy in my picture today, I'd run the other way.)
Christian culture (and eHarmony) has created a romanticized picture of what meeting your spouse will be like. In the classic I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Joshua Harris writes: "Too many couples overspiritualize the decision of whom they marry. Instead of realizing that God leads us by providing wisdom and allowing us to make our own choices, those couples wait for a 'mystical experience' that will tell them what to do."
Just as my junior high mind projected who I would recognize as "the one," my grown-up self entertains expectations of how I'll feel when my "soul mate" arrives on the scene. The truth is, God knows best the kind of man who will inspire me to greater devotion to Him. As I seek the Lord, I can trust Him to reveal that person to me in whatever way He sees fit.
When I get married, then my life will begin. This myth is particularly insidious. It has the potential to cause great frustration and hopelessness. A desire to be a wife and mother is good, but it does not let us off the hook from living fully right now.
Of the more than 500 references to life in the Bible, none puts marriage as a prerequisite. Jesus said: "I tell you the truth, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life and will not be condemned; he has crossed over from death to life" (John 5:24). My life started when I believed on Jesus, and it does not hinge on my marital status.
Think about the acclaimed Proverbs 31 woman. She must have developed many of her skills long before she was married. In the quiet moments of her life as a young woman, she was learning how to be productive and godly. In today's culture, marriage is often delayed longer than we had hoped. But the distinctive opportunities we have as singles are worth embracing.
Marriage will/will not meet my deepest needs. There seem to be two prevalent and opposing views on the relationship between marriage and needs. The first sees marriage as the ultimate wish-fulfillment experience. The other says every need can and should be directly met through Christ, a type of "super-husband."
Each view contains some truth. God created woman for man as a remedy for loneliness (Genesis 2:18). And God's grace is sufficient for every circumstance (2 Corinthians 12:9). But marriage alone cannot satisfy a woman's deepest needs. Sarah says: "A very wise lady once told me that she has had her loneliest times since she has been married." Neither can our relationship with Jesus meet the needs that He intended other humans to satisfy.
Reliance on Christ does not nullify the advantage of a human marriage relationship. And yet, He is the One who satisfies our deepest longings. As women, we must embrace a balanced understanding of the distinctive roles that Christ and a godly husband should play in our lives.
There must be something wrong with me. If I could just figure out what it is, I could fix it and guys would start showing interest. For a long time I believed that if I were thinner, I would attract a husband. Magazines with images of women with flawless skin and model-thin bodies fuel that inner voice that says, You're not thin enough. You're not pretty enough. Or worse, I wonder if it's my personality. I talk too much. Or I laugh at the wrong times. Or I'm too assertive. It's easy to look at married women and wonder: Why them and not me?
The truth is, most of the things I suspect are lacking in me, fall under the category of charm and beauty. Scripture says, "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised" (Proverbs 31:30). The things I should be concerned about improving are spiritual in nature. Am I submitting to Christ? Am I manifesting the fruit of the Spirit? Do I have a gentle and quiet spirit? The right kind of man will be attracted to these qualities.
The older I get, the less likely it is that I will find someone. "God is not bound by odds!" Sarah says. While Sarah was still working at the college, she attracted the attention of a godly man. He sought her out, even learning of her character by questioning her friends. Mark and Sarah married when she was 29. Today the couple serves together in Lithuania.
As you pass the average marrying age, it can be tempting to panic. It's helpful to remember Paul's words in Romans 11:36: "For from him and through him and to him are all things." All things. As you cultivate godly attitudes and avoid damaging lies, you allow the Lord to pour out the things He has for you. That way, when the right guy comes along, you'll be ready.
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